Anyway, I understand what you mean about feeling resentful, and how you'd like the other person to acknowledge the sacrifice you've made.
We all like to feel appreciated. And when you pack up and move around the world for someone you love it's not too much to ask for a little appreciation sometimes.
I do know how you feel psweeney1967, I've felt the same way myself at times. "Does he know what I'm giving up to be with him? My home, my friends, my family, kids, grandkids? A good job? A darn good monthly maintenance check?"
I moved here to be with my sweetheart, to build a life with him, no other reason than that. I didn't move because I hated America or wanted a better job or longed for foreign adventure, life would've been just fine in the US if he had been there with me, but that visa process would've taken far too long.
But I am possibly the luckiest woman in Britain because he does understand my feelings and a day does not end without him expressing his love & appreciation for me.
I hope you and your wife can talk about this, get these feelings out where they can be tended to, and share some support and strength. Best of luck to you and her.