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Offline nystacey

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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #60 on: January 22, 2009, 07:04:58 AM »
NYC Pizza is good..  I would imagine it "tastes" better in Italy.. even if it doesnt...

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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #61 on: June 18, 2011, 03:39:22 AM »
I didn't read all the responses but I am 42, established in my career here in the US and owned a home. I sold the house last year and have to admit I am nervous about the move from a financial standpoint because I am not sure what I'll do for a job there. I work in Law Enforcement here.

I think where I get "stuck" if you will is that my life has had huge changes in the past year and the boyfriend's life has gone on as usual, so sometimes I feel resentment about that.

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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #62 on: June 19, 2011, 06:11:11 PM »
I didn't read all the responses but I am 42, established in my career here in the US and owned a home. I sold the house last year and have to admit I am nervous about the move from a financial standpoint because I am not sure what I'll do for a job there. I work in Law Enforcement here.

I think where I get "stuck" if you will is that my life has had huge changes in the past year and the boyfriend's life has gone on as usual, so sometimes I feel resentment about that.



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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #63 on: December 28, 2011, 01:01:19 AM »
kind of thread jacking here, but i had to chime in regarding the pizza comments. The BEST and supposed birthplace of pizza comes from Naples. That's where you need to go if you want "real" italian pizza!!! I had pizza up north italy and they put wurstel and egg and all sorts of different things that my hubs laughed at and said, "that's not italian". LOL. dont stray from the margarita! simple, fresh ingredients and baked in 5 mins in a wood burning oven! YUMMMMSSS!!!!

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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #65 on: January 02, 2012, 12:34:07 AM »
I agree that the pizza in Naples is phenomenal...coffins or no coffins! Ooh and the lasagna in Pisa was amazing! Sorry for the thread jack too.
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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #66 on: January 12, 2012, 10:15:07 AM »
Don't care how they cook it - pizza in Naples is something I still dream about.  Nothing has ever lived up to it since.

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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #67 on: May 21, 2013, 12:55:31 AM »
So I (US hubby in UK) and new wife did the LDR thing for a while.  We battled over who would move (I lost).  I've been here 4 years now, and still can't adjust to the inferior standard of living, the fact I'm so far away from family, and that she doesn't treat me like a King because I made the sacrifice.

I know I shouldn't be resentful but I am...  Can anyone relate?



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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #68 on: May 21, 2013, 01:44:28 AM »
You've replied to a post that is six years old.

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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #69 on: May 21, 2013, 08:24:20 AM »
Sometimes a reply takes a while to germinate. I am always thinking up good come-backs the next day.
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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #70 on: May 21, 2013, 10:12:33 AM »
Sometimes a reply takes a while to germinate. I am always thinking up good come-backs the next day.
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Re: Re: Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #71 on: May 21, 2013, 12:57:17 PM »
Sometimes a reply takes a while to germinate. I am always thinking up good come-backs the next day.
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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #72 on: February 18, 2017, 11:05:11 AM »
I literally sold or gave away everything in my house with a few minor exceptions that fit into 5 suitcases for myself and my son. I moved the the U.K. To be with my husband who I can not see living without. He is my world and my rock. I moved here when I was 47 years old and have not regretted a moment of the choices I made.
About a year after I moved my husband was diagnosed with heart failure and COPD and needs to be helped out daily and I still know I made the right choice with no regrets. I get to spend every day with the person who means the world to me and I do not resent the fact that I was the one to give up life in the US.
Remember that you have made a choice to be here no one has forced you and if you are truly that unhappy with the choice speak with your wife and see if moving to the US is something you can do together. Otherwise things can only get worse and your resentment will harm the relationship you have.

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Re: Resentful for being the one who made the HUGE sacrifice
« Reply #73 on: March 07, 2017, 04:37:22 PM »
I'm sorry that you're feeling that way.  It's a big move, and I imagine you feel the loss of many familiar things.  And I'm sorry that you don't appear to be getting the support you're looking for on the forum.  It's a difficult change.  No matter how much you prepare, things may not be as easy as you'd hope.  I don't have any advice to offer other than trying to calmly convey your anxiety about the move with your spouse and work it out.  Everyone handles change differently.  I wish you the best of luck!