So I'm sharing a flat with 2 other people. It's a 2 bedroom flat with the living room converted into a 3rd bedroom. I'm sharing with a 30 yo woman and a 21 yo guy. I'm 22 myself and I found the ad on gumtree so I didn't know my flatmates beforehand. Anyways, the guy isn't really a problem but the woman is. I find her rather unpleasant because she acts as the "mom" of the house (not in a good way). I don't know if she's doing it because she's much older than us or that she has lived in the flat for the longest. The guy and I both moved in around the same time in September and the woman has lived here for over 2 years now. Anyways, a lot of the things I can overlook (i.e. assigning cleaning task and setting up a cleaning schedule because she thinks the guy and I don't clean the common areas enough (like every week); asking us (unsuccessfully) to contribute to the TV license even though neither me nor the guy has a TV) but the fact that her boyfriend is staying over so much is really really getting on my nerves! I know for a fact that he has stayed over EVERY night this week. And generally I would say he stays over at least 4 nights a week. Since there's no living room, it's not as big of a problem. He is usually in her room or with her in the kitchen. Anyways, I want to talk to her about it, but I don't know how to approach it. She likes to leave notes on the kitchen table about everything, so I don't know if I should write her a note or confront her in person (although I really do not enjoy talking to her). I don't want us to hate each other, cos I do share the common areas with her, that's why this is so hard!! What do you guys think I should do?? Thanks for reading!!