We have neighbors that are wonderful, sweet people and we like them a lot, we could not ask for better neighbors, they even called to alert me when someone was trying to break into our house. They've borrowed tools, we talk when we're out in the yard, ect.
The problem is they (mainly the young wife) want to take the neighborly relationship to a level I don't want - we have a ton of family close by and between my/his close friends we have a very full circle.
Their home country has a culture where neighbors are treated like close family and well, we don't feel the same. I enjoy having good relationships with my neighbors but I don't
want someone that watches my every move and expects me to come over all the time and feels like they can drop in whenever they feel like it. We are "call before you come over people" and we give the same courtesy. It's getting to the point I feel I have to sneak out whenever I go somewhere in the evenings or on the weekend. Between DD/DH, working full time and going to school part time my spare time is precious to me.
The wife does not work, stays home all day, ect. His parents also live with them. I really feel bad because she wants a relationship like we are best friends but I just don't feel the same - we just don't click like that. My two best friends and I talk about once or twice a month and see each other every couple of months - we are all busy and this suits us just fine, these are two ladies I've known 20+ years - and I'm not one to have a lot of close relationships anyway, I prefer it that way.
The hints are not being received and I don't want to hurt her feelings but I'm at a loss of what to do.