Insomnia led me to find this thread...
I get married in a month. I'd love to give a Hubby a chance to choose my clothes, but he likes me to choose his. It'd be great if he could decide what we should eat, but he's had a lifelong battle with making his mind up. Oh, if only I could hand over the reins of our finances, but there's a reason why I've come into this relationship rich and him poor. As for small print and legal stuff, well, he tells me I'm more practiced in that kind of stuff, and he's right.
I'm a bit more Joan-of-Arc than surrendered wife. I did have a controlling boyfriend once when I was young, who I tried to please, but the more subservient I become the more controlling he became. It didn't last, it's not in my nature.
Men have had a very hard time with me. I'm a very happy and satisfied person. I like me, I like my life, I'm very capable, confident and proven - so sweetheart, what are you going to do to make me even happier than I already am? If a relationship is all about compromise, then what's so good about you that the compromise is worth it? I'm just about 40 years old, never married, never settled, I've had a wild, happy life so far and I've a million stories to tell. I've no ambition to marry, no ambition to make room in my life for somebody.
My grandmother frets constantly that I'll grow old alone and lonely like her if I don't find a man. She's conveniently forgets that she found her man, but she's been widowed 30 years and is old and lonely regardless of whether she married or not.
Then I meet this guy. He's in his 40s, never married, he's spent too much time being a nice guy to be a successful guy, so never attracted the material girls. He's noisy and passionate and opinionated and overbearing, so girls who like nice guys find him too much to cope with. He's independent, fiery, he's no doormat for me to wipe my feet on - and I will wipe my feet on you if you lie down in front of me often enough. He's educated and intelligent, not worldly-wise, but worldly-curious.
So, come my love, lets go and explore the world and each other and share everything new and old and known and undiscovered. Teach me your humanity and I'll teach you my skills. And if we burn up in each others' flames, what the hell, so long as we were happy while we were happy.