I highly recommend All Your Worth by Elizabeth Warren & Amelia Warren Tyagi. This book doesn't get into extreme detail re: budgeting, but it's a really good book if you're looking to take a holistic view of your finances and figure out what you want to spend money on and how much you can devote to different things.
As far as managing the money, my husband and I have a joint current account, a joint savings account and we each have an individual current account. Our salaries get paid into the joint current account and our bills are generally paid from that account, as are groceries/toiletries/house stuff/eating out expenses. We also each get an "allowance" transferred into our individual account that we can spend on whatever we want (lattes, books, magazines, games...)
We have a spending plan which predicts joint upcoming expenses that don't recur every month (home insurance, plane tickets to the US, immigration fees, new appliances or furniture, things like that) and every month a varying amount of money for those kinds of expenses are funneled into the joint savings until we need to use it. We're also building up an emergency fund of 6 months expenses, which eventually will get set aside in a second joint savings account (right now it's lumped in with the annual expenses money which isn't the greatest place for it.) We're still in the "paying off debt and building up emergency savings" stage of life, so we don't have any other complicated investments to speak of- I do have a pension, but I generally don't even think about it when planning our finances because I never see that money.
I pay all the bills and manage all the money in our house- that's the way we both like it.
My husband knows what our financial position is because I talk to him about it regularly, but financial planning and the actual moving around of the money falls to me.
