Hi everyone---I'm going to introduce myself after a few weeks off bouncing around the site during my down-time at work (who am I kidding--when no one was looking is more like it!). Thank you so much for your valuable and (so often!) thought-provoking posts. I'm living/working in the states right now. I'm American, and my UK boyfriend of 4+ years and I have decided to get married this year. We met in 1999, fell in love, and lived together for a couple of years while he was in the states on a work visa. We talked about getting married then but I thought I wasn't ready (I was 24 but I'm kind of a free spirit! Now at 27 I wouldn't say I'm any less so, but at least now I know that I've already had what I want in a partner--). After 9/11happened--the company he worked for stopped issuing work visas altogether (tourism-related company--huge drop in tourism, etc) and he had to move back to England right after that in 2001. It was all rather devastating at the time but has gotten a bit easier--I moved back to the midwest where i'm from and we've seen each other at least 3 times a year since then (not much, I know, it's awful). As much as I always look forward to seeing him, I dread saying goodbye again. All in all, however, it has probably strengthened our relationship and made us realize how much we really want to be together. Our last goodbye at Gatwick was just too painful and I think we hit that point where it was too hard to go on like this but impossible to give up. (Hey, it sounds romantic in my head if not in type
)! So . . . we decided to get married. He lives in Dorset and we will be applying for the fiancee visa at the Chicago consulate in May. I plan to move to england. We had originally planned on March (he will be visiting me here in a few days) but decided to put it off a couple of more months for the following reasons:
1. He just moved to the south after having lived in the west-midlands for one year. He is looking to buy a flat in the area and we thought this might increase our chances of getting the visa if he did so, as currently (and for the past 3 months) he is staying with friends with no real lease.
2. He also he just took a new job he started January 1, so taking a bit of time before approaching his boss for a proof of employment-type letter seemed like a good idea.
3. I can't quite make out if we need to get married in the west-mids or in dorset--as he's always lived in the west-mids until this year (and the time he was in the US). Does he need to have been in dorset (with proof) for some time, or can we get married at either district's registry? (We're not having a religious service).
4. Above all, I'm worried about getting turned down in Chicago and plan to be over-prepared. I have had some nightmares about it. J will be with me, but with the way things are going in Iraq and the particular strain on US-UK relations right now . . . I'm scared. Did we pick the worst time in recent history to finally do this? My family is pretty supportive, albeit a bit apprehensive. I feel I'm living in a constant state of not really knowing anything . . . about anything! I can't make plans, I can't tell people at work (or some friends) and most of all . . . I can't wait! Nervous excitement, maybe that's what you call it. Anyway, thanks for listening. I just wanted to say hi--and thanks.