I would say that inlaws, even ones that are married to inlaws, wouldn't count because the form says you can't use someone who is related by marriage. We didn't even use my SiL's (sort of ex) partner because even though they aren't married and not really in a relationship at them moment, he is sort of related to my relations through their kids. I wouldn't use a fiancée either, even though it might be technically not excluded, it sort of goes against the spirit of what they want, as dated and meaningless as what they want is.
Malcolm's spot on. You can use referees from the US (or someone of any nationality) for the professional one.