Alcohol *is* a huge part of the Scottish culture. And your friends won't be able to understand that.
But 50 pints a week, with a wife sitting home on her own? He is taking the piss and he can't blame that on his culture.
I agree with this whole heartedly.
I (as an American) found it odd when I visited Glasgow for the first time. I remember walking past what I thought was a cafe at 11 am with people drinking big jugs of beer. Turns out, they were beer gardens and there was no shortage of people in them at all times of the day / night.
With that being said, I sincerely believe it to be part of the Scottish culture. In America if you drink at 11 am you're an alcoholic
. So certain things just don't translate well.
If you try to look at it objectively, irrespective of if you're American or Scottish, drinking that much for that long while their other half is at home alone is not ideal.
In my experiences, the more people "nag" or try to control you, the more you want to do whatever it is. The only advice I could give is try to give him some space and share your feelings with him when you are both calm (and sober). Men are stubborn (I'm a man, I can talk)
but you can't exactly "bully" someone into sharing your views.
I faced the same issues that you have but I managed to dissuade my Scottish partner from smoking and drinking. I just explained to him that I worry about the long term health effects although you did the same to no avail.
I mean no disrespect with anything I've said ("nag" or "bully"), but realistically that's how he may see it. In any case, best of luck and keep your head up!