This is more a rant than anything, with advice needed!
My future sister-in-law wants to plan a mini hen-do for me a couple weeks before I get married. She doesn't keep a secret well and blabbed that she and another girl (who I dont know very well) are already putting plans into action to have a hen do for me at my house and get my fiance out on a stag do that same evening.
She has said she has inquired about a "butler in the buff" and said she has invited a few people, including the fiance's mother and EX! I get on just fine with the ex but I dont really see her as a friend. Anytime she has been around with just the girls, she seems to always have little digs at my fiance and it's just tiring. She is a friend of the family, especially since she is the mother of his son, but I just find it awkward. I told my SIL this, and she insists she HAS to invite her. Really?
I also dont feel comfortable having our "entertainment". Call me no-fun, but I just dont feel comfortable having a man wearing nothing but an apron serving me in my house. It's just not me.
When I first came to the UK, I was on a student visa and studying in Liverpool. I was there for 4 1/2 years before I moved in with my fiance to Manchester, so most of my friends are there. I MUCH rather just take the trip to Liverpool and have a meal with my friends there. I did tell the SIL this too and she just says "Oh you have to have a hen party!".
Am I just being a bit of a Bridezilla here? Also, should this be something the maid of honour does? I should be grateful I suppose that someone was so kind to do anything for me but I would feel totally uncomfortable with everything she mentioned and people she has invited!
I suppose I am wanting to know if anybody has had any similar experiences with being put in awkward situations at your hen do? Or maybe even any tips on how to already deal with insistent in-laws?! Should I just go with the flow?
Sorry for the long rant! It's been bothering me all weekend!