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Offline Airmom16

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Why would you say that?
« on: August 14, 2016, 11:55:50 AM »
I'm laying here mulling over what a coworker said and it's baffling.  Whilst at work she says out of the blue "don't get murdered over there!"  I just looked at her and asked why she would say this.  And her reply was I don't want you moving over with some foreigner ( my husband) and getting murdered.  I was dumbfounded.  I explained that the US scares me more right now with gun violence and such. 
I'm also wondering why I am that shocked so many people have said things along the same line.  When I first traveled over everybody was scared I'd be murdered, or the big one is its too dangerous to fly or what about the terrorist?  Is this because I live in backwards Iowa or do people actually think this way? 

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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #1 on: August 14, 2016, 12:18:19 PM »
What a very tasteless thing to say. To be honest I never heard anything like that when I moved over. I just don't even see how the UK would.be more dangerous than the US right now to even warrant a thought along those lines. How strange!

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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #2 on: August 14, 2016, 12:34:01 PM »
No one ever said anything like that to me and I'm from Small Town USA in Colorado.

It could have to do with the terrorism going on in Europe though. There have been what, 4 different terror attacks in France, Belgium and Germany this year? Britain hasn't experienced any thus far.

And I'd agree with BriKH, I was much more worried about being murdered in Colorado than I ever was here.

Road ragey people with guns, unhappy students with guns, men with guns who are angry at women...

You don't have the whole gun worry here.
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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #3 on: August 14, 2016, 02:21:56 PM »
I really don't know why someone would say that.  She must be projecting her own fears on you.

Honestly, no where in the world is great right now.  I do think it's a matter of time before the UK has another big terrorist attack, but that can easily happen in the US.  No where is safe from terrorism right now!

I do feel overall safer here.  I especially feel like my child is safer.

Both countries are not great places to be at the moment with Brexit and Trump looming. 

I'm more concerned about immigration changes than safety - for sure!

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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #4 on: August 14, 2016, 02:31:45 PM »
It's just someone's opinion.....try to brush it off and don't take it too seriously. I can still remember my mother telling me the first time I came to England (1980)...."Now don't you bring back some English wife!" (she was somewhat serious...she said English wives were undependable)......It took me quite a few years.......but marrying a Brit is exactly what I did. Best thing I've done.......
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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #5 on: August 14, 2016, 02:49:31 PM »
She must be projecting her own fears on you.

Exactly.

When we were about to leave from Texas in April, several different folks said similar things to us. Given that these friends are all retired Texans they almost certainly all watch Fox News and so the terrorist attacks in Paris and Brussels is expanded in their minds to the whole of Europe, including England, being a war zone.
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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #6 on: August 14, 2016, 03:04:58 PM »
Loads of Americans are really uninformed about what the rest of the world is like. It comes from a combination of not travelling outside the US, the kind of news coverage they see, and the pervasiveness of the "America is the best country in the world!" mentality. I have loads of friends from small town Wisconsin (hi neighbour!) who are absolutely convinced that there is no better country than the US despite never having travelled anywhere else. They are genuinely baffled as to why I would choose to live elsewhere. It's not malicious, just based on a very narrow world view.
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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #7 on: August 14, 2016, 03:21:17 PM »
Loads of Americans are really uninformed about what the rest of the world is like. It comes from a combination of not travelling outside the US, the kind of news coverage they see, and the pervasiveness of the "America is the best country in the world!" mentality. I have loads of friends from small town Wisconsin (hi neighbour!) who are absolutely convinced that there is no better country than the US despite never having travelled anywhere else. They are genuinely baffled as to why I would choose to live elsewhere. It's not malicious, just based on a very narrow world view.
That's what my wife said when we moved back to the US for 4 years. After watching the news, at first she would say something like "they don't even mention the rest of the world".....about right. Very isolated is the US(speaking with my Yoda voice).
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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #8 on: August 14, 2016, 03:49:09 PM »
Exactly.

 Given that these friends are all retired Texans they almost certainly all watch Fox News and so the terrorist attacks in Paris and Brussels is expanded in their minds to the whole of Europe, including England, being a war zone.

Fox News is the worst. 
I really think it's because I'm one of the only people in my friend group/ coworkers who has traveled outside the country.  Most of them think it's too scary going outside the states but I just don't see why they think it's so safe here.  I remember dropping my son off at school and being worried about shootings.  I'm not worried about that in England and am looking forward to that fact.

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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #9 on: August 14, 2016, 05:03:39 PM »
I'm in the US at the moment while the Olympics are on and I'm getting fed up of mainly only seeing the Americans and the Brazilians on the Prime Time shows (plus it says it's live when half the time it was recorded live earlier in the day) - I've had to resort to online streaming just to see other nations competing... particularly in the gymnastics - the other day, the only reason they showed one of the UK gymnasts was because she fell on her neck during her floor routine and then went on to do the vault afterwards.


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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #10 on: August 14, 2016, 05:39:02 PM »
I'm in the US at the moment while the Olympics are on and I'm getting fed up of mainly only seeing the Americans and the Brazilians on the Prime Time shows (plus it says it's live when half the time it was recorded live earlier in the day) - I've had to resort to online streaming just to see other nations competing... particularly in the gymnastics - the other day, the only reason they showed one of the UK gymnasts was because she fell on her neck during her floor routine and then went on to do the vault afterwards.


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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #11 on: August 14, 2016, 05:45:26 PM »
My husband made a post about how bad the news was for anything outside the US.  For example when they named the new prime minister you had to go down 5 pages on the Fox News station to see it.  That's pretty big news to be 5 pages down.  But we're too concerned with this circus they're calling an election.

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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #12 on: August 14, 2016, 06:07:24 PM »
Americans specialise in only their view.....It's totally not understandable unless you have lived there and can compare it to somewhere else.

I have lived in the US - twice :P. The Olympics coverage annoyed me in 2008 as well... but back then I had access to a UK VPN and could stream BBC iPlayer :P.

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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #13 on: August 14, 2016, 06:24:21 PM »
To be fair, the US is a huge country with a lot of diversity, it's possible to have a wide range of experiences while remaining inside its borders. Contrast that with the UK, which is a small country that has always had to look outside of itself, first to defend against enemies and later in its attempt to conquer the world. Yet there are still very narrow and xenophobic people here as well. You find that sort of attitude everywhere.
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Re: Why would you say that?
« Reply #14 on: August 14, 2016, 06:43:06 PM »
I'm in the US at the moment while the Olympics are on and I'm getting fed up of mainly only seeing the Americans and the Brazilians on the Prime Time shows (plus it says it's live when half the time it was recorded live earlier in the day) - I've had to resort to online streaming just to see other nations competing... particularly in the gymnastics - the other day, the only reason they showed one of the UK gymnasts was because she fell on her neck during her floor routine and then went on to do the vault afterwards.


I have lived in the US - twice :P. The Olympics coverage annoyed me in 2008 as well... but back then I had access to a UK VPN and could stream BBC iPlayer :P.

Completely agree!
 
I am happily loosing sleep in the middle of the night watching the great BBC coverage....   although I did fall asleep last night and missed watching Mo Farah's triumph live.  ;D 
One or two of the commentators annoy me but at least we get to see all the action!

Have a great time ksand!  ;D
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