I'm a construction site foreman and come into contact with lots of new migrants to the UK. I occasionally see guys who appear somewhat 'lost' and are clearly struggling to assimilate. A few weeks back a young guy from Brooklyn New York started working with me. He seemed to me a little brash initially – especially through my perspective of English reserve, or unnecessary cautiousness, haha – but I could see he was just trying to establish his presence and could easily imagine myself acting similarly at his age and in his position.
As I got to know him and he relaxed a little, he revealed himself to be polite, intelligent, conscientious, and likeable. From a professional point of view, he could be trusted to work well; every time I walked the site I would catch him working, when its quite common to catch guys suddenly become animated when they're aware of my presence, ha ha. However, lately he's been off work complaining of feeling under the weather. Its unlike him to be unreliable and after a little more inquiry I discover he's actually very depressed. Its weird, but someone else could have told me similar things and I might not have considered it so serious, but there was look on his face and something about his demeanour that conveyed something worrying; instinctively, Im very concerned about his mindset and fear he's bordering on a trajectory of serious self-harm. In his last communication with me he said - with chilling conviction - that without his job he is 'nothing'.
He doesn't have any friends or family here in London and seems quite isolated, which is obviously compounding his low mood. I've assured him he can talk to me anytime, but that I'm not qualified to assist him in any effective way so advised him to talk to a GP (he hasn't registered yet) to request a referral and/or possibly a prescription. But what worries me most is his extreme social isolation, and I wonder if there's any ex-pat groups in London for people from the U.S?
Look forward to your reply.