When it asks for all travel in the last ten years - both in the UK and outside the USA - if I cant remember the exact dates do I just put an estimate?
Preferably the exact dates, but if you don't know them, then an estimate of month and year should be fine.
If our children are grown and no longer "dependent" do I just put no children?
If it's asking about dependent children, then that's correct - put no, because you have no dependent children (they are independent now).
On the spouse place of issue - I cant find anything in my husband's UK passport that has an issue place so do I put USA since that is where we applied for his renewal?
A UK passport is issued in the UK (even if you renew in the US, the application is mailed to the UK for issue).
So, the place of issue is UK and usually, it's IPS for the issuing authority (but check what it says on his passport).
What do I put as the reason for being exempt from the English language requirement?
You are a US citizen.
Do I need to put anything in the additional info box? - Is this where i should put the information about my adoptive name on my marriage certificate?
Nope, no requirement to put anything... most people just use it to continue answering questions there wasn't any room for in the boxes, but you can explain about your name on your marriage certificate here if you like.
Also do I need the original land registry and mortgage documents from the friend we are going to be living with or can I use a printed copy from an email?
You need the original Land Registry (though you can purchase and download a copy of it yourself from the Land Registry website for £3).
The mortgage statement is optional, but if you send it, it must be original.
They also need to write and sign a letter giving you permission to live there and stating that the home will not be overcrowded... and this must have a wet signature and be mailed to you in the US.
And last question - for this post lol- Are the HUD statements from the purchase and sale of our home for the financial requirement fine or do I need all the papers from the lawyers?
Not sure, actually - hopefully someone else who has used the sale of property to meet the requirement can answer this one
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