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Offline lyonaria

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Not a great day
« on: October 12, 2017, 11:50:51 PM »
My dad's dad passed away this morning.

It's weird. I had a bigger reaction than I expected, but I haven't seen him in 16 years. I guess it was more of a reaction to the loss of someone who I never had a relationship with and now it can't happen.

And it's a reminder of mortality. My 14 year old dog stubbornly and happily eating his way through life.

All I can hope is my dad's okay. 7 hour time difference makes talking impossible til the weekend. My mom told me on WhatsApp.
The usual. American girl meets British guy. They fall into like, then into love. Then there was the big decision. The American traveled across the pond to join the Brit. And life was never the same again.

Offline jfkimberly

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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2017, 01:11:25 AM »
I'm sorry, lyonaria.  Dealing with loss is hard enough.  Dealing with it when your relationship wasn't what it could have been makes for a confusing time.

Do you plan to travel for the service?
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Offline Rick Stephens

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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #2 on: October 13, 2017, 05:58:01 AM »
I'm so sorry for your loss lyonaria.


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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #3 on: October 13, 2017, 06:39:27 AM »
Very sorry to hear this lyonaria.
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Offline TravelingFrog

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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #4 on: October 13, 2017, 07:53:05 AM »
So sorry, lyonaria.
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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #5 on: October 13, 2017, 08:22:33 AM »
Big hugs Lyonaria!!!

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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #6 on: October 13, 2017, 02:38:29 PM »
So sorry.  Hope you are OK. xxx

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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #7 on: October 13, 2017, 08:37:55 PM »
Sorry for your loss lyonaria.

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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #8 on: October 14, 2017, 03:44:46 PM »
Thanks guys.

It was a bit surreal. My mom told me while I was at work and I just, couldn't stop thinking about it. Teared up a bit and just got stuck into my book on the way home so I didn't cry on public transportation.

No, I won't be going to the funeral. It'll be in Texas and I simply can't afford the last minute flight or to miss work. My employer is "awesome" when it comes to this sort of thing.

Just needed to put it out there somewhere since I don't have a ton of people to talk to during our normal hours.
The usual. American girl meets British guy. They fall into like, then into love. Then there was the big decision. The American traveled across the pond to join the Brit. And life was never the same again.

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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #9 on: October 14, 2017, 03:57:25 PM »
So sorry for your loss Lyonaria. A tough situation indeed. Take good care of yourself, treat yourself to every kindness.


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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #10 on: October 14, 2017, 06:43:19 PM »
I'm sorry for your loss.


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Re: Not a great day
« Reply #11 on: October 14, 2017, 11:35:27 PM »
I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain of not being able to be there for your dad through this tough time.  :(
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