My WTF moment today is a two-parter:
Part OneI like to bake and we live with FIL and grand-FIL. Usually everyone is away in the mornings so I have the kitchen to myself, but FIL is home on medical leave for a few weeks, so he's home all day, every day.
Today I'm making sourdough bread. It takes some prep a few days in advance (getting the starter fed and up to the right amount) so I purposefully plan my bake days for days that nothing is happening and no kids are over. When FIL is home, he's usually watching TV and/or on his tablet.
I started mixing my dough and FIL started vacuuming. He only vacuums when kids are coming over, but I don't say anything. Then he moves the fruit bowl off the table which he
really only does if the kids are coming over. I ask him if they are coming over and he says 'oh, no, just... erm... tidying up'.
Ok.... well, it's a big kitchen, but it's always harder to cook or bake when there's someone else around to bump into and be in the way of. I finished what I was doing and tidied up, trying to subtly cover cutlery and crockery out drying since he's a bit all over the place with the cleaning sprays (I don't really fancy poison on my stuff and that's a whole other WTF that I'll save for another day).
Why he didn't just wait until I was done in the kitchen, I have no idea.
Part TwoSIL's birthday is coming up and FIL told DH this morning that she's coming over with cake later this week. DH texted me about it, so I knew, but no one said anything to me about it. The same thing happened (but reversed - they told me, not DH) last week for Diwali. We do ask them what's up regularly and if anything is going on, but no one says anything. They aren't big chatters, so it's really like pulling teeth. Even when you do get something out of them, they'll contradict themselves two seconds later or say you misheard them.
In the kitchen, I casually asked FIL if SIL was doing anything for her birthday. He said she was coming over with cake tomorrow (he told DH the day after... but it is possible there was a miscommunication between FIL and DH and one of them got it wrong).
Well, yesterday she was over and I saw her. She left the kids with FIL for a while and came back with a small slice of cake for the kids.
Side-WTF: I was in the kitchen when she was cutting the cake and wasn't offered any. I didn't want any, but I was taught to not eat something in front of someone else without offering to share.Putting the pieces together, I'm guessing she went to the bakery to order her birthday cake. I saw her
after she got back and she didn't say a word to me about doing anything for her birthday.
So:
- FIL mentioned the birthday 'party' (it might just be cake, it might be family coming over... who knows...) to DH
- I prised it out of FIL
- SIL said nothing at all about it to me
DH and I will be sticking to our usual schedule tomorrow. She's turned down invites from us because they were last minute, and there hasn't even been a real invite for this, just a casual mention of cake, so we're just going to carry on with our day.