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Offline Heather E.

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Just needed a vent...
« on: December 19, 2017, 09:27:22 PM »
I realised I needed a bit of a vent when I slipped and fell on ice today, while I was trying to get to yet another bank branch to try and get around my bank's '3 month policy'... and just sat on the pavement crying instead of trying to get up.  I've been riding a high since getting a new job, a job that I'm actually enjoying.  So even with a sick kitty (no vet seems to know what is wrong with only one thinking her vomitting episodes are related to IBS), my mom recovering from brain surgery (and trying to help my brother with her affairs while abroad), and my MIL retiring and moving back to the UK and staying with us indefinitely... I've been quite positive.  I have even been giving my colleague (who also happens to be an expat) pep talks.

I think the visa business has gotten to me.  It should have been quite straight forward, but the hard copies of payslips and bank statements all seem so much more difficult this time.  I am dreading going into branches to request my statements as they just regurgitate the same 'we don't stamp printed statements anymore'.  And my partner just walks into a branch and gets six months of statements (they did not stamp them so at least they are consistent on that, but it still makes me nervous), while I'm practically begging for the three month maximum.  Of course when they get to chatting with me about why I need this they proceed to tell me what they think I need.  I had a timeline which involved sending everything off last week... I have until the end of this week and I still don't have everything.  I am sending my partner back to the branch that was happy to print off his statements since we have a joint account and see if he can work his magic again.

I guess I feel like him going back to that branch is the least he could do since he's not been quite so helpful with the process to begin with.  I told him what I needed him to request from his company... I even sent a detailed list to his work email so he could just forward it to HR.  A huge multinational company that only has canned letters, none of which completely satisfy the UKVI requirements and this time around they won't even send the hard copy of the letter to him, just a PDF.  My partner doesn't understand why I'm so stressed out and keeps saying that this is company policy, but I keep explaining that the visa stuff is actually law... so it doesn't matter what your company policy is, if I don't comply with the law, it is back to the U.S. for me.  He has now realised how upset this has made me and said that he should have been more involved and we should have created a timeline... I DID CREATE A TIMELINE! I've been on track, even with a side trip to Madrid and getting my passport renewed by the end of November.  My new job overnighted a letter from the President of the company and my old employer drafted a letter and sent it to me within a few days of the request... so still frustrated with his employer and the lack of follow up from him.  I know he meant well and I did talk to him about his statement, but seriously.

I'm now worried I've done something to my wrist, but I right now I'm more worried about wasting the visa fee submitting an application that I'm not entirely confident about.

I know you've all been through the visa stuff, so I know I'm preaching to the choir, but you also know how frustrating the process can be. And as I've not yet made friends here in London to go for a pint with, I just needed a little vent so I don't end up on the pavement crying again.  Right, the pity party is over and I'm plotting which two branches I will visit to get the rest of my statements and to clean up more kitty vomit.  Do you think UKVI will think it is suspicious that they are printed in three month periods? 

Anyway I hope everyone is doing well and that you all have a wonderful Christmas and even better 2018 :) 
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
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Offline ksand24

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2017, 09:35:44 PM »
Feel free to rant away - sorry you’re having a bad time of it at the moment :(. You will get through it though, and it’ll all work out fine :).

On the statements issue, if they are printed by the bank in-branch, they DO NOT need to be stamped. You only need to get statements stamped if you have printed them yourself at home from online banking - and therefore the bank has to confirm they are authentic and have not been tampered with.

Also, as long as they cover the entire 6 months, it shouldn’t matter if they are printed in 3-month periods.


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Offline Heather E.

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #2 on: December 19, 2017, 09:48:11 PM »
Thank you ksand!  You and everyone else on here are always so helpful and supportive!
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
FLR (M):  29 May 2015

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #3 on: December 20, 2017, 05:55:41 AM »
I really hope you get to the bottom of what's wrong with kitty.  :-\\\\

And best of luck with the application, once it's out of your hands you'll feel a lot better.  :)

Happy Christmas!  [smiley=antlers.gif]



March 29th 2013-Moved to UK, husband on spouse visa.Oct 20th 2015-Applied by mail for FLR(M).Feb 1st 2016 FLR(M).

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #4 on: December 20, 2017, 08:55:45 AM »
This soon will pass.

Could it be kitty's food?  Mine had a spell like that before and change of food did the trick!

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #5 on: December 20, 2017, 02:21:25 PM »
But you do have friends in London to have a pint and a moan with - me and HMS seahorse!  We'll go out for an emergency beer with you. 

Just a warning, the first time I went out for a beer with her, I ended up sleeping in a tent by myself in Georgia next to a swamp.  True story.

pm us after Christmas if you want.

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #6 on: December 20, 2017, 06:00:48 PM »
I really hope you get to the bottom of what's wrong with kitty.  :-\\\\

And best of luck with the application, once it's out of your hands you'll feel a lot better.  :)

Happy Christmas!  [smiley=antlers.gif]

Thank you larrabee!  I don't want to jinx it, but since she was sick last night, I haven't found any vom.  I did put her onto a boiled chicken diet this week to help.

Happy Christmas to you too!
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
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Offline Heather E.

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #7 on: December 20, 2017, 06:04:47 PM »
This soon will pass.

Could it be kitty's food?  Mine had a spell like that before and change of food did the trick!

A year ago our previous vet prescribed her a special dry food as they suspected some sort of intolerance.  No cat treats and stick with the same wet food.  What's strange is that it happens in waves... we'll go for months without any issues and then all of a sudden she'll just be sick constantly.  I usually suspect that she's eaten something she shouldn't (we have experience with this...), but when they check by feeling, ultrasound, and x-ray, they never find anything.  At least we've found a vet here and she is all registered... just in case  ;D
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
FLR (M):  29 May 2015

Offline Heather E.

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #8 on: December 20, 2017, 06:06:18 PM »
But you do have friends in London to have a pint and a moan with - me and HMS seahorse!  We'll go out for an emergency beer with you. 

Just a warning, the first time I went out for a beer with her, I ended up sleeping in a tent by myself in Georgia next to a swamp.  True story.

pm us after Christmas if you want.

Aw, thanks!  I might just take you up on that!
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
FLR (M):  29 May 2015

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #9 on: December 20, 2017, 06:12:02 PM »
The only bad thing is that I'll be doomed to listen to cat talk all night!

Offline Heather E.

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #10 on: December 20, 2017, 06:14:01 PM »
I am dreading going into branches to request my statements as they just regurgitate the same 'we don't stamp printed statements anymore'.  And my partner just walks into a branch and gets six months of statements (they did not stamp them so at least they are consistent on that, but it still makes me nervous), while I'm practically begging for the three month maximum. 

So I think you guys will appreciate this... all I could do was laugh because I'm just over it. 

I went to another branch and got three more months of statements and without asking, the guy stamped every page.  When I got home our post box was full of statements, packed three months at a time to an envelope.  I was thinking, "Great I don't have to go anymore and neither does my partner!"  I opened them and it turns out that the lady ordered 11 May 2017 to 11 May 2016   :o  I requested 11 Dec 2017 to 11 Dec 2016...

Good thing I've been getting these other statements!  Now I just need May 2017 and we're set!  Any recommendations for a new bank?  ;)
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
FLR (M):  29 May 2015

Offline Heather E.

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #11 on: December 20, 2017, 06:14:37 PM »
The only bad thing is that I'll be doomed to listen to cat talk all night!

Nah, that's what my colleague at work is for :)
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
FLR (M):  29 May 2015

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #12 on: December 20, 2017, 07:23:29 PM »
The only bad thing is that I'll be doomed to listen to cat talk all night!

Don't be so jealous, Jimbo.


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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #13 on: December 20, 2017, 08:10:40 PM »
Cat talk!  That is my kind of talk!

And that little elfin cat suit is gorgeous.  Would it fit me?

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Re: Just needed a vent...
« Reply #14 on: December 20, 2017, 10:16:22 PM »
Adorable!  I tried putting a Christmas hat on one of the cats and she rolled all the way across the floor trying to get it off.  I'm still going to crochet her a Christmas pudding outfit  ;D
Online application completed: 15 Jan 2015
Biometrics: 21 Jan 2015
Application posted via UPS Express: 28 Jan 2015
Application received at Sheffield: 30 Jan 2015
Email confirmation: 5 Feb 2015
Email asking for confirmation of return address:  12 Feb 2015
Visa decision: 13 Feb 2015
Visa received: 16 Feb 2015
Flight Booked:  26 Feb 2015
Arrived in UK: 28 Feb 2015
Married:  27 Apr 2015
FLR (M):  29 May 2015