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Offline lyonaria

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This week gets worse...
« on: January 17, 2018, 07:47:44 PM »
My dad's mom passed away last night. I found out at work.

This is not my week.
The usual. American girl meets British guy. They fall into like, then into love. Then there was the big decision. The American traveled across the pond to join the Brit. And life was never the same again.

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2018, 07:50:20 PM »
So sorry lyonaria.
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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #2 on: January 17, 2018, 07:57:58 PM »
My dad's mom passed away last night. I found out at work.

This is not my week.

Oh, I am so sorry!
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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #3 on: January 17, 2018, 08:00:57 PM »
Oh lyonaria, I'm so sorry. Please know that our hearts are with you, and you are all in our prayers.


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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #4 on: January 17, 2018, 09:27:14 PM »
Thanks guys. Absolute shite week.

Kind of thinking my work is going to think I'm lying so I could leave early.
The usual. American girl meets British guy. They fall into like, then into love. Then there was the big decision. The American traveled across the pond to join the Brit. And life was never the same again.

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #5 on: January 17, 2018, 10:14:28 PM »
I'm so sorry :( I can't believe you work with people who would think you could lie about something like that. My condolences to your family!

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2018, 01:46:54 AM »
Condolences. 

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #7 on: January 18, 2018, 06:07:37 AM »
Sorry to hear this. Condolences to you and best wishes.

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #8 on: January 18, 2018, 06:21:55 AM »
I'm so sorry :( I can't believe you work with people who would think you could lie about something like that. My condolences to your family!

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I found out right after I asked if I could take part of Friday to do job search stuff. 

Of which the answer was no, you have no rights to anything as you have only been here for a year.

I feel sick today. If it was just the job I could cope.
The usual. American girl meets British guy. They fall into like, then into love. Then there was the big decision. The American traveled across the pond to join the Brit. And life was never the same again.

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #9 on: January 18, 2018, 07:13:45 AM »
I found out right after I asked if I could take part of Friday to do job search stuff. 

Of which the answer was no, you have no rights to anything as you have only been here for a year.

I feel sick today. If it was just the job I could cope.

Don’t go in today unless you feel you want to. You need to look after yourself first and foremost.  x
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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #10 on: January 18, 2018, 08:13:31 AM »
Don’t go in today unless you feel you want to. You need to look after yourself first and foremost.  x

I'm not. I feel like poo. I'm crying. I lost my phone on my dog walk in the dark this morning. I couldn't get the bin out cause the way was blocked by an old fridge that blew over last night. I missed the bus looking for my phone in the pre-dawn. Husband came out to help me look after the sun came up a bit and found it.

I'm staying here with my headache and bad tummy.
The usual. American girl meets British guy. They fall into like, then into love. Then there was the big decision. The American traveled across the pond to join the Brit. And life was never the same again.

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #11 on: January 18, 2018, 12:55:06 PM »
You did the right thing.  Ignore what your employer says.  They have no power over you. 

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #12 on: January 18, 2018, 01:25:00 PM »
I'm so sorry lyonaria  :\\\'( :\\\'(
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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #13 on: January 18, 2018, 02:04:58 PM »
Stay at home and look after yourself.  Try not to give the job another thought.  I know that is easier said than done.  Sometimes you just need a little space to yourself to get your mind together. 

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Re: This week gets worse...
« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2018, 02:40:16 PM »
Ugh.  Definitely put yourself first.  I am so sorry you are dealing with all this.  Feel free to message me if you need to vent.