I don't know that it's a cultural thing for me. I do know that when I divorced my son's dad, I was OFF men. Totally. Didn't even date for four years after the split. My son then got a little older and I started feeling like I wanted to get out wiht an adult, so I did loosen the rule and dated some, but not with any intention of ever marrying again.
I just didnt feel there was a man out there for me.
Yeah, well...enter this really great man who swept me off my feet. But more importantly, he is very much like me. We agree on too much to count, and any disagreements are actually compromises that work nicely to benefit both of us.
But, by the time I met him, I knew what was important to me, and he matched a very strong checklist in so many line items. Okay, I confess something. Back in college, when we were sitting around the girl's dorm with curlers in our hair (yes, that long ago, mud packs, popcorn, baby doll pajamas...LOL), a few of us made a list, our perfect man.
I'll be darned...my British husband fit just about every one! Is it because he's British? Well, the only thing British-related is that he has a British accent. (LOL, yeah, I pined after the British accent...heck, it was afterall, my perfect mate, and that does include the accent!.) All the other stuff I put on there could apply to any body.
But the fact I never found an American male who filled all those attributes, hmmm...coincidence...or reality?