I've been in the UK about eight months now, and while it's been pretty hard, I don't hate it here. But I find that the longer I'm here, the more people at home annoy me.
Eight months and I haven't gotten a single phone call from them. I must initiate everything. They barely respond to emails and can't make ten minutes to learn Skype (despite my showing them personally before I left and even buying them webcams.) It's not about a technical ability - they just don't perceive it as being important enough to sort out. It makes me feel like they don't miss me at all. Sometimes, I'm glad for that, but mostly it just reminds me that even though I don't belong in the UK yet, I don't really belong at home anymore, either.
And yet at the same time, they seem to want to dictate when I come visit. Will I be home for Christmas? What about Thanksgiving? You'll be back in the spring, too, right? None of them seems to consider the COST of my traveling to THEM all the time, nor the disruption it causes in jobs and everyday life. And why would they, since not one of them has even filled out the Passport forms in the hopes of perhaps, one day, many moons from now, coming to visit ME?
My sister, who is listed in the "never calls yet wants a visit" box, actually asked me if I'd watch her children for a week the next time I'm in the states. As if a) my coming to town is a great time to get out of dodge and b) I don't have ANYTHING better to do during my short stay in my hometown. What's with people who don't understand SHARING you when you come home to visit, by the way? Nobody seems to remember that there are 20 other people who also haven't seen you.
But the thing that really gets me upset is that even if you take ten deep breaths and calmly mention any of this, people get in a huff and act like, "hey, man - YOU'RE the one who left. YOU deal with it." And maybe they're right. I moved away, so why should THEY pay an extra three bucks on the phone bill to call me just once?
Or maybe I knew that's how it'd be and that's why I chose to go somewhere to live with someone who used to live an ocean away from me, too, yet called me daily.
For my next rant, I will discuss health care in america and why nobody thinks I should be allowed an opinion or vote on it since I'm an ungrateful jerk who left the country and therefore couldn't possibly have ANY vested interest in what happens there.
SO SHOUTY URGH
(I feel better already. thanks.)