So lately I've been stressing out a bunch over this move to England thing. After visiting over Thanksgiving, I'm really excited about it, and looking forward to living there. However...
- I'm finishing up with my job here in the states effective Dec 31, and have no hint of employment after that
- I still need to sell some belongings that are pretty high value, and I'm counting on having those sold to fund the move itself, plus rent/food/etc until I find a job, so until I sell those, I'm kind of screwed...
- I've got a house that I won't sell (market sucks), but still need to find a renter. Even with a renter, that won't cover all the costs associated with the house (property taxes/insurance/etc), but it's far better than having to pay the mortgage myself from England.
- I would love to really dig in with preparing to move as far as finding a flat, finding a job, etc, but realistically/logistically, these things are impossible to do until I'm physically over there. (I've been sending out my CV, but have gotten limited interest due to being overseas.)
Of course, the kicker with all of these things is that I can't really control them. I'm working on selling things (and adjusting prices accordingly so that they will sell), but I have no control over when they'll sell. I'm working on cleaning up my house so that it'll get rented, but have no control over when/who will rent it. I'm sending out my CV to job listings, but have no control over who will be interested (or how interested they might be).
And all of this is stressing me out big time.
I like having a plan...I work really well with definite plans. If I know (with reasonable certainty) that it will be, say, 4 months before everything's settled and I can make the big move, I can deal with that (or if it's 2 months, or 8, etc). It wouldn't be ideal, but at least then I can adjust my behavior according to that plan. It's the "well, I could land a job and need to start work the first Monday in January" or "I could have a bunch of unexpected things come up and not move until August" thing that drives me bonkers. (Or the extra-scary scenario...land a job but have no savings due to unsold belongings, so have to scrounge for money to move and then figure out a way to live until I get that first paycheck.)
Anyone else an OCD planner type, and how do you handle times when you end up stressing over stuff that's (largely) out of your control? Logically, I can tell myself that it will work out somehow, it's not the end of the world if I move in May instead of March, I won't end up starving on a street corner somewhere, etc, but emotionally that doesn't keep me from stressing.
(Wow, apologies for the novel...)