Expat guilt. Mine is entirely different.
I have a sibling, he lives near them and I did before I moved. He has children, my husband and I do not. They're all relatively healthy. We are not. We could never move back to the US due to healthcare costs for my husband alone. My mom does understand this, but it didn't stop her from guilt tripping the hell out of me for months before I moved and still doing it after I moved. She got a whole helluva lot better about it when I sat her down and told her how it made me feel and how I already knew how it would affect everybody and how I was already thinking about all of these things myself without needing to be reminded. She realised she was making me, who already felt bad, feel even worse. And she, as someone who loves and cares for me, didn't want to do that, so she did her best to stop.
So no. If you care about your family, you'll always have some emotions around not being able to be there for everything. But if you're parents are constantly being jerks about it after you have had conversations with them about it. That's on them and I'm sorry they're being buttheads.
