Hello everyone....I am completly at my wits end and dont know where to turn. I am finding that the official immigration sites are not very helpful and somewhat confusing. I am unable to afford legal help and was wondering if anybody here would be able to offer some help or advice to me. It would be gratefully recieved and appreciated. I am desperate.
My husband and i married in the States in November 2004. I live in London and he is in SC USA. I am currently in reciept of public funds, which means we are unable to apply for him to stay here. I would be able to change this by moving out of London (where the rent is MUCH cheaper) and getting a job that would allow be to cover the rent and support me and my son (just). My problem is that i cant do that on my own and need my husband here to help take care of my son while i work. (childcare is not really an option as my hours would be evenings and nights)
1: Would he be able to come here on a visitor/tourist visa, Help me move and get a job and then when we met the "public funds" criteria make application for "Further leave to remain" using a FLR(M) on the grounds of marriage?
2: If this is not possibile would he be able to come on a visitor/tourist visa, help me get financially self sufficiant, and then we fly to NY to get the relevant spouse visa. (dont know the name...please help) Leaving us able to return to the UK straight away?
3: My husband has very little in the way of money and does not have a bank account, however my mother is prepared to financially support him until he is able to work (god love my mother) and my bank account will be "inflating

"
after i have come off of all public funds. How will this affect things?
My husband is living in an extermly intolerable situation at the moment (the curcumstances are truely tragic

) and once he left the States he would have nowhere to return to and nowhere to live, so it is critical that he is not told to return for a period of time.
My head is spinning with questions and worries, im so scared im going to get this wrong. I cant even begin to imagine life without my husband.
Thanks a lot for listening.....stay safe
Jules