Right. I moved this back in here in case anyone else is wondering.
I *finally* found an accountant who does international tax filings. She and I had a chat on the phone and this is what she suggested:
That I file an extension for David & I for 2004.
That after April 15, I continue to look for an accountant because really, this is too much
for my little brain. (She didn't say that, but you know.
That our situation is less complicated in one area than I had thought: we have our UK bank accounts still open but we don't have to do any kind of reporting on them because we've got elss than 10,000 in them. (Um... LOTS less)
That they could do the work for us and it will still be quite expensive, but less than the other guy. To keep looking for a cheaper quote but if I can't ifnd it, they will be happy to help.