Doctor visit

I went to the doctor today because I had missed my last three periods (was actually freaking out thinking I might be pregnant  ) It turns out that not everything is working right, and after a few test, the doctor said that if I ever what to have kids, getting pregnant is going to take alot of effort. I guess I'm kinda in shock. I've always wanted to have kids someday

I'm so sorry to hear that.  But at least Dr didn't say it would never happen.  Just think of all the fun you can have trying...

I do understand your pain and agony.  I can not have children "of my own"--at all--can't even have someone else carry my eggs sort of thing.  It took a little while to get used to that fact, especially when I have 5 sisters who pop out kids when thier husbands just look at them.

The way I look at it now (after a few years of getting used to the idea) is that God is in charge of my motherhood options.  IF He intends for me to have a kid at all, maybe my inability to do that of my own flesh is His way of telling me that somewhere out there is a special child intended for me through adoption or some other avenue. 

Also keep in mind that Drs only practice medicine.  They practice.  This means they don't have it down pat, and they can certainly be wrong.  Don't give up hope!  You never know what will happen...

I've always felt like I should adopt children one day when I'm married. (I've felt this since I was about six years old). There is no way I would go through fertility treatments when there are so many kids in the world who need a good, loving home. So maybe all of this is just a sign---adoption is what I should do. I don't know. I guess I'll just deal with it all when the time comes. 

My plan (if I do it at all) is to get an older kid (4-7).  Then, no diapers, no spit up, and they are old enough to make thier own bed, clear the table and take out the trash

I wanted to have two, adopt three (doesnt really matter what ages). But all of that is still a long way off for me (I don't even have a boyfriend at the moment!) so I guess I shouldnt worry about it now! I just hope I meet a guy who is open to adoption. My last boyfriend was totally against it (he wanted to pass down his blood line and all this other BS) and that's one of the reasons we broke up.

I always thought I would live my whole life single (only very recently married).  I imagined I'd adopt on my own at some point. 

I am 31, my husband is 43.  He never thought he'd get married let alone have kids.  We are both very lucky to have found each other, and that we are both fine without having "biological" children.  When the time comes, we are both on the same page about adopting an older brat.

Neither of us are so vain that we MUST carry on our blood lines.  Plus, I am one of 6 kids, he is one of 5...ALL of our siblings have kids, so the family lines are already continuing (that is not, necessarily, a good thing )

I'm having too much fun traveling and meeting new people...my theory is: I'm just going to live my life, and when the right guy comes along, everything will fall into place. I'm not worried at all. I (hopefully) get to come back to England in July for a year or two (yeah!!) and who knows after that!

A great philosophy on life Angie! Happiness comes in all forms and life fulfillment doesn't always come wearing diapers 

Good for you! You will know what is right for you when it comes along.

how can anyone guage your ability to conceive w/o a full range of fertility AND other diagnostic testing - such as thyroid function, diabetes, or other non-reproductive hormonal diseases that can still affect fertility - and STD screening - some STDs can also impair fertility?  that's ridiculous. 

how can anyone guage your ability to conceive w/o a full range of fertility AND other diagnostic testing - such as thyroid function, diabetes, or other non-reproductive hormonal diseases that can still affect fertility - and STD screening - some STDs can also impair fertility?  that's ridiculous. 

Yes I agree.
Angie I think you should consider a few other opinions.
Best of luck!

ha, and still use protection anyways!  unexpected babies have a way of cramping your style when you're young and still having fun travelling and meeting new people  and actually want to raise a child with a partner.

ha, and still use protection anyways! unexpected babies have a way of cramping your style when you're young and still having fun travelling and meeting new people and actually want to raise a child with a partner.

was planning on that!!!! When I missed, I just about had a heart attack. But at least now I know why I'm not having them! And when the time comes and I actually want kids, I'll research it more/talk more to the doctors. Turns out my family has a long history of problems like this (no one bothered to tell me until yesterday).