how many friends have you lost?

I have a very large family ( what makes it so large is the fact I have TONS of aunts and uncles and as a result TONS of cousins ) .. no one has been supportive of my move here. My parents, 2 sisters ( well older sister, as my younger sister just has not much of an opinion about it! ) have been against this. They think I'm stupid moving here for love. They thought I was st upid marrying my boyfriend. I may be naive in many things but for the love of G*d I'm not stupid. So you have to know what I'm feeling with dozens of people, my FAMILY, to tell me I'm being dumb for moving here and I'll regret it. But I TRY not to let it bother me.

Just last night I had a huge argument with my cousin, who I used to consider like a sister to me. For the past month or so, since I got married to my boyfriend, she hasn't been very nice. Firstly, she hardly messages me anymore and we are both online at the same time almost every day. I usually have  to be the one to do the messaging. Then I heard from a VERY trusted source ( my godsister, who is the ONLY person who supports me here, and I trust her implicitly becaus I've known her for nearly 15 years and she has been honest and loyal to me the whole time ) that she said something about me behind my back that was very wrong, and very FALSE. She has the tendency to gossip about people, I'm sure she's done it to me tons of times, but this one just made me flip out, it was so terrible of her to say this about me. I confronted her last night and it turned out to be a very ugly fight. she claimed I 've changed, which I haven't, the only reason I seemed so different to her is because this is the first time I've gotten seoisly angry with her and decided to tell her off. We didn't end things on a good note, and to tell you the truth, I can't care much if she decides to cut me out of her life, becuase SHE was in the wrong ( she blatantly lied and denied she said what she said about me ) plus she claimed Ichanged which couldn't be more wrong. So you can say I kind of lost a friend since moving here as I don't know if we will be on good terms again.

I have moved from city to city for years, and I've learned that you will only keep a handful of friends over the years.

If you two were best friends in hs or college, the fact is, you may not be close enough stay friends long distance. Friends can be people to hang out with, or they can be like family.

Don't tell her to f off unless she has done something truly horrible. If she's just being a PITA, then give her a pass - if talking to her upsets you, then don't talk to her. If you feel like keeping in touch, then do so.

The fact is, you will make new friends in England. Some of them will be temporary, and a couple will be for life.

I so completely know how you all feel...it sucks sucks and sucks some more. It seems like I have "lost" most of my friends, except for the very oldest, who are also married with children and very busy and so contact between us is even more rare, which is unfortunate, because now is the time when i need my girlfriends most. 

  So you can say I kind of lost a friend since moving here as I don't know if we will be on good terms again.

I hope things work out the best for you and your cousin, whatever the best may be

I'm having a hard time with my friends back home right now.  Like someone said before... life just keeps going on there as usual.  I hear all about the dinners out, going to shows, everything I used to be a part of.  And being here it is really difficult because I don't have friends like that here.  I haven't made any friends at all.  I do have some really nice co-workers... but nobody who knows me like my friends back home did.

I'm getting really frustrated because I rarely get e-mails or phone calls.  I've sent numerous e-mails, telephoned, sent packages and all sorts and I barely hear a peep.
It has been really difficult for me lately.

On top of that, the frustrations of settling in, being poor, not being able to secure a full time job... I'm a basket case!

I hope it helps to know that you are not alone!!  I will say it again, it sucks!!!

Do you all find it as easy to make friends here as back home?

It is nice to come here and vent all these feelings and know that you aren't the only one.    God bless UKY. 

Just the other day friend of a friend of mine from home was traveling through on tour and we went out to the pub with him and went to see him play and then went out again afterwards.  It was just nice to feel some sort of connection to people back home and talk about familiar things.  It really picked me up!

I think moving here is a real eye-opener as far as finding out who your true friends are. I've lost a couple whom I considered close, but "out of sight, out of mind" has played into it. Then there have been others for whom "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

I've taken it personally before, but then, when I look back over the friendships, it doesn't really come as a surprise. There are always going to be people in your life who love your company, may even hurt you badly (such as sleep with a boyfriend, which was the case with my supposed best friend), but whom you forgive and cherish due to having a long history together. In my case, my closest friend and I were friends since we were 12-- through our teens, through our 20s, and well into our 30s. My husband couldn't stand her when he met her (she struck him as very superficial), and although I initially was pissed off at him for saying so, his read of her character and predictions about our friendship have been spot on.

Try not to take it personally. If someone can't be bothered to keep in touch with you because you moved overseas, he or she isn't a true friend. That's what phones and email are for.

To be quite honest, I've lost all my friends in the states. I talk to the occasional aquantiances online once in a blue moon,but as for "friends" we've all just lost touch or we had a falling out for one reason or another.
My so-called mother disagreed with me leaving America to be with Dale & marry him because shes over the top patriotic and thinks I'm turning my back on America  , She also didn't like the fact that we're having a baby,so I haven't spoken to her in awhile & have no plans to.
The only person that I try and keep in touch with and viceversa is my former foster mother who moved from England to America several years ago (coincidently enough she lived in the same town as hubby)
 I don't take the loss of friends and family personally. I look at it as a learning expierance more then anything