Another day goes by

It's only been a little while since I've seen him last (Saw him off at the airport on 01/07/06....today is 01/19/06....that's less then two weeks, but I haven't been able to sleep well, I have no drive at work, my room is a mess, because I have no desire to do anything, it's just been hell without him here. I'm trying to keep myself occupied, reading forums, watching videos...we Skype chat all the time and have gone through about 3-4 phone cards already, but it's just harder and harder...and though I know once I get my fiancee visa, and go see him again, it will be permanent. But we don't have a set date all we have is a goal time frame (March or April) which makes it difficult. in the past we have always had a set time, he was visiting in September, and left....I already had tickets for November. Before I flew out out in November, he had tickets for December to January. But now we don't have a set day. It's hard...what makes it more impossible is I keep finding receipts from when we went shopping together, or his socks in my laundry. I know I'm not the only one who is going through/has gone through this...maybe just talking will help..

*holds my beautiful angel in my heart and counts the hours until I am with her again*

you poor thing.

i know exactly what you're going through.

the way we've gotten through it is to always have a date set for the next time you'll be together. without those, i'd have surely gone mad by now. knowing that we'll have a few days in march before the wedding in may is making this time apart more bearable. does that mean i miss him less or don't feel the separation as sharply? hell no. it just gives me something to hold onto.

I feel your pain. The waiting to see each other again is the hardest part, but I wouldn't trade the time together for anything. Just keep telling yourself it will be over soon! Hugs to you!!

Hang in there.  Time goes slowly looking ahead, but flies by looking back.  This stage will be through and you will move on.  When you hit rough times later, you will be able to recall how you felt during these months and it will give you strength. It took us 9 months to get together. Seems a shame to throw that away, might as well stick it out. Too many good stories.

Or..... as Spock once said to the opponent who stole his fiance  "You may find that wanting is sometimes more pleasant than having. It is not logical, but it is often true." 

Sorry, I can't be serious for more than one paragraph.  Best of luck and cheap phone rates to both of you. See all your friends, go eat all your fave things that you can't get there.

Are his socks really that bad ?

I'm really sorry you are having such a hard time.  I am in the exact same situation (he left on the 14th of Jan) and I was also finding it very hard to find the will to do much.  Not knowing when we will be together again is really hard.  I have to keep telling myself that I love him, he loves me, and in the end all will be well.  I think it's important that even though he is the love of my life that I dont let this situation take any happiness from me.  I miss him but life isn't the destination, its the journey.  And life doesnt stop just for me and my sad heart.  Make the best of this time away from him.  I know this may sound cliche, but take a class.  I don't know what you are into but maybe you can learn how to do something that will be a pleasant surprise for him Also remember that other people do not dictate our feelings, if you want to be happy at a time like this you can.  Be positive.  Be confindent.  Try to remember you are a lucky person to have found the love of your life.  Don't let this time apart take away from your happiness.   

End of rant.

Best of luck to you!!

Learea51

Hang in there Shayde. Most of us have been there. We can all relate! Just think of the good times you will have once youre together forever. Dont look at the calendar..just look at your future. Time will pass quickly enough you'll see. Big hugs and lots of positive vibes coming your way. x

Thank you all. We were on the phone earlier...and talking....He said "Don't look at it like it's only been 2 weeks and a day, look at it as though it's two weeks and a day closer to being together, two weeks and one day closer to being married, two weeks and one day closer to forever" I thought to myself, he's right.....he is the sweetest man ever. Thanks all for your support. it's helpful to have this forum.

Thank you all. We were on the phone earlier...and talking....He said "Don't look at it like it's only been 2 weeks and a day, look at it as though it's two weeks and a day closer to being together, two weeks and one day closer to being married, two weeks and one day closer to forever" I thought to myself, he's right.....he is the sweetest man ever. Thanks all for your support. it's helpful to have this forum.

I do my best, sweetie. I waited over a year before I could even tell you I'd fallen for you; I can wait another few months before I marry you.

y'all are so cute! Be happy that you have found each other and that you have a future together!

y'all are so cute! Be happy that you have found each other and that you have a future together!

Awww! Thankies!

y'all are so cute! Be happy that you have found each other and that you have a future together!

Thank you!
Hopefully things will pick up from now on; for a start, I got a job yesterday! It's commission based, but if I do well at it I could bring home a lot of money each week, easily enough for us to live on (especially since Shayde is planning on getting a job after we are married). If it doesn't go so well, the hours are such that I can still look for something else while I am still there.
Still. With luck, our happy ever after has now started!

awesome! Congrats!!

Congrats on finding a job!