Should I stop talking to him?

I don't know if it'll make my life easier or just harder.

So a while ago, I posted http://talk.uk-yankee.com/index.php?topic=22826.0 that thread.

Things were great for a while. We've been talking two years, we're good friends (e-friends?) and I was completely head over heels for him and happy. But that's changing now.

I miss him. I miss him so much. It's been 2 years since I've seen him.

I was going to see him twice next summer: once when he comes here with friends, once when I go there to visit family. By that time, it'll have been 3 years since I've seen him. But now I'm thinking of just not e-mailing him anymore.

I care so much about him. I was even crazy enough to think that I may be in love with him. I've never really been in love, so I don't know how it feels, but if it wasn't love then it's something very close to it. I really like talking to him, but knowing that I won't see him for another full year is totally killing me. I feel like it would be easier if I just stopped writing to him altogether and tried to focus on guys around here.

But I don't feel that way about any guys around here. And I am probably being completely dramatic about the situation, but I honestly can't deal with it anymore. It's too hard. I want to keep writing him, but I don't. Does that make sense?

Writing to him, and getting his emails are like bittersweet to me. On one hand I love hearing from him and his emails completely brighten my day. On the other, it makes me realize how far away he is and how I'll never see him.

And we're not even in a relationship! We're friends, and look how I'm acting! How could I even consider telling him my feelings? If we were in a long distance relationship, I would probably go off the deep end.

I don't know what to do. Should I stop writing to him and just try and force myself to move on, and just settle for a guy around here?

That sounds really tough.   

I suppose, if you're thinking of just not talking to him anymore, you could always take the big risk and let him know how you feel.  The worst that could happen is that you embarass yourself in front of someone you would never see again anyway. 

I really don't know what else to say, I guess you'll have to go with your heart and your gut.  And btw, I don't believe in settling for anything.  So if you decide to start dating locally, only accept the best and don't put up with anything less.

is it really worth cutting short a good friendship over this?  If it's bothering you that much, I would just tell him.  Yeah, it might make things weird, but if you two are committed to remaining friends no matter what it should be possible to talk it over and work through it.  And who knows, maybe he's thinking similar things.  It wouldn't solve the problem of not seeing him for a year, but then at least you wouldn't be in limbo.  If you talk to him, you'll be able to determine whether or not a relationship with him is even viable and then you can either plunge ahead with the long distance (if you're both willing) or make a decision to just continue being good friends and concentrate on all the guys out there who are more local to you

Communication is one of the most important parts of a friendship or relationship. Be honest with yourself and with him, talk it through, and go from there. As Amarylis said, who knows, he may feel the same way. And, as Carrie said,  don't ever settle for any less than the best. Best of luck!!