Wonderboy and I are both good people, who value each other, but we both come with a few truckloads of emotional baggage, some of which still probably needs to be evaluated.

He's worth the effort of trying to find out where this all came from, why it was so sudden, and what he actually wants.
I only feel impotent in that I said all I wanted to say, in as honest and caring language as I could say it, and now the balls in his court. . . And I can be a bit of a control freak.

In any case, we have spoken, and I got another email with some answers. . . He has a nasty habit of jumping ahead of himself (and me), panicking, and trying to spare himself hurt that may or may not be coming. . . So during an episode of emotional housecleaning, he freaked about where this would go, and all the difficulties entailed, and I think was just trying to spare himself pain.
Sounds like we still have some details to hammer out that we both had some assumptions on, technicalities, etc., but we've agreed there's potential for us, and to back up a bit and let things develop at a natural pace.
I did make a stand on the fact that I really find it hurtful & unfair that he didn't let me know he was struggling with things relating to us before he made his knee-jerk decision to end things. . . I can't allay fears or tlk through things (bring him back to reality) if he won't tell me whats going on, and I relly feel somewhat decieved that he let me think things were fine, then broadsided me.
Thanks for all the support- My head's been spinning for a few days. . .

You are all awesome, and I do appreciate the play of ideas and the meeting of minds on this site.