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nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« on: June 25, 2006, 06:45:00 AM »
Okay, did anyone else have this feeling?  I bought my wedding dress today, and now I'm suddenly fighting an awful lot of panic.  I had pretty much decided on one in another city, but I decided to look at the local shops before I purchased it.  I broke down and let DF see pictures and he loved the other dress.  It was very simple and understated.  Today I looked in the last shop before I went down to get the dress I thought I was going to buy, and I found one that I really liked in the local shop and ended up buying it.  It is completely different.  It has a lot more detail and pretty beadwork.  The shape is quite different and accentuates my curves. 

I thought it was so lovely in the shop, but now I'm panicking because I worry that DF won't like this one after liking the other or that what nicely accentuated my curves in person might end up looking too hippy in pictures.  I am still just in total shock that I own a wedding gown at all.  I am so excited to marry my sweetheart.  I didn't expect to be so nervous though after just buying a dress. 

I don't think I will send photos to DF this time.  I took a few and they didn't come out as flattering as I would like, which is probably a large part of today's panic feeling.  I was looking kind of Saturday grungy as far as hair and make-up go.  I want him to see me in person and feel wowed.  I'm nervous that he might form strong opinions if he were judging the two photos side by side and think, "sure she was kind of pretty, but I still liked that other one better."  I have to believe (or hope) that he would see me in person and just be caught up in the moment.  I just want to be beautiful for him.  I believe I will be, but I'm feeling self-conscious because I've put on a little weight over the last few years, and he is so thin.  I hate these stupid girl insecurities, and I really hate that they are plaguing me as I make one of my monumental steps in life.  Did any of you find yourself worrying that you weren't going to feel pretty that day?


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Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #1 on: June 25, 2006, 08:31:05 AM »
I don't really have much to say as I've never had done this or got married...BUT...I have one thing to say...

Don't stress over what you look like in your dress. On your wedding day your husband will think you're absolutely stunning as I'm sure he does now.

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Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #2 on: June 25, 2006, 11:16:57 AM »
I can completely relate!  I bought my dress online because there was no way I was buying here in the UK and since I don't get home for another few days, there'd be no time to dress hunt a month before my wedding!  So, I've not yet seen my dress in person OR tried it on.  I am definitely a bit freaked that it's going to look like crap or something.  Thank goodness for the seamstress I've got lined up, in case it needs some adjustments. 


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Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #3 on: June 25, 2006, 11:38:13 AM »
On your wedding day your husband will think you're absolutely stunning as I'm sure he does now.

That's so true.  Everybody loves to see the bride in her dress, especially the man who's marrying her.  Don't send him any photos of you in the dress.  Let him be surprised.  And knock his socks off!   :)
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Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #4 on: June 25, 2006, 01:12:44 PM »
I always thought I'd get one that was more simple, and df and I had looked at some pics of what I was looking for, but I ended up doing the exact same thing!  I found one that had beadwork and is very gorgeous on!  My df says no matter what, I'll be the prettiest girl in the room, and yours will think the same thing, I'm sure of it.  I wouldn't worry about   how he'll see you in the dress or anything like that (okay, I really am too a bit, but trying not to, forgive me this is for myself as well as you).  He's marrying you because he loves you, so of course that means he'll think your stunning!   :)


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Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #5 on: June 25, 2006, 02:50:05 PM »
I thought the same when I bought my dress, it was a lot more "princessy" than I thought I wanted. I showed it to my now husband online, he liked it. I showed him pics of me in it when I bought it and at fittings, he liked it. But on the day he was WOWed by it...so I'm sure you'll look lovely on the day!
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Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #6 on: June 28, 2006, 08:29:21 AM »
Thank you all very much, and to Kristina and Persephone, I'm sure you will look smashing on your special day. 

I am feeling so much better now.  I took the dress over to some friends who took some better pictures of me, and I like the look of them much more.  I also confided my fears in DF and he has helped me feel so much better.  He told me how beautiful he thinks I am, but besides that spent the next hour talking about how proud he was the last time I came to the UK and he introduced me to everyone.  He talked about the joy to have my hand in his and said I knocked their socks off inso many more ways than one.  It was so sweet and thoughtful of him, and it helped me a great deal.  I've put my fears aside again and I'm back to normal--counting down the days till we can be together again.

Roll on, October!!


Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #7 on: June 28, 2006, 08:33:24 AM »
So glad to hear it  ;D

(And thank you!!)


Re: nervous after buying my wedding dress!
« Reply #8 on: June 28, 2006, 12:05:04 PM »
I'm so glad you feel better!  And thanks!  We'll all have to put up pics of our events so we can see the dresses!    :)


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