I haven't heard anything

I haven't heard anything from my boyfriend in over a week. I just returned home from my visit on the 23 too. I've left emails and voicemails, nothing back. It's so unlike him to go without letting me know how he is, even if he's busy with work he'll let me know. I just feel like he's advoiding me & I don't understand why. I'm just so sick & nervous over the whole situation. I have only spoke to one friend about this & she told me not to worry, but this is so unlike his behavior. She's even offered to give him a bell since, she lives near him. At this point I told myself, that I won't contact him till he contacts me. I'm to damn old to be chasing anyone, is how I'm feeling. Damn I'm ramblings I'm sorry.

hey Selene,

Hugs to you...and I'm sending you a PM..hang in there!!

Hi Selene,
I have gone thru the same thing with my fiance sometimes...it is mostly after we leave each other...either when I come back over here or he goes back over to England...and I know exactly how you are feeling...you are worried and sick...and a million different things keep running thru your head...I know men don't think like women...but I sometimes I don't think they think at all....I hope everything goes well and he gets it together and calls you.....if you need to talk we are here...and I am here...and I have been thru this before...

Josy

Sometimes partings are really hard...especially on men who don't always know how to cope with their emotions. When they feel the sadness of the good-bye, sometimes in their minds they wonder if it is all worth it. Long distance relationships aren't easy on anyone ever.

But I also agree with you about being too old to chase anyone. Right before Paul I was devastated by the end of a LDR. Swore I would never do that again...LOL. But sometimes we have to come to the point where we know our lines...what we will and will not take. Use this time to learn a bit more about yourself (I know how easy and high minded that sounds...but I have been through the pit of he!! in the same position and it didn't work out for me...so I really do understand). I found that Whitney Houston's music really helped...the Greatest Love of All especially.

Good luck...I really am pulling for you.

So sorry Selene.  I had a similar time with my (now) DH about 2 weeks before i was to go over and visit.  No answer to calls/emails for 4 days.  The thing that went through my mind was that he had an accident i didn't think for a second that there was any problem with 'us'.  He made me so mad when he eventually got in touch, he couldn't see what the fuss was but i was sick with worry the whole time.  He told me it was a phone battery problem (i just accepted that as the reason, but i have no clue if it's the truth or not!  )

Men really are from a different planet and he'll probably not even know the worry it's causing you.  Try to be calm and rational (something that i wasn't at the time!).

I hope it all works out.

I've been through the same thing. My first thought was the guy was in an accident and that's why he didn't call when he said he would or respond to my calls; then I was scared it was over. Turned out the latter was right; he couldn't deal with an LDR. And this happened right after I had visited him and he was telling me he was coming to see me in a month and then wanted me to come live with him. I could actually tell it wasn't quite perfect between us, but I was in love with the romance of it all. Anyhow, I learned a lot about what to take and what not to take from guys in that and many other crappy relationships before I decided I was worth decent treatment from a wonderful man (and that's when I met my husband, who always treats me like gold.)

It's true that men don't understand how women worry if they leave us hanging when we expected to hear from them. But your situation may go beyond a little male/female differences if you've left several e-mails and phone messages for a week and he still hasn't contacted you (especially if you told him you are worried because you haven't heard from him). Unless he was in an accident (which is unlikely), then by not calling he's basically telling you that you deserve someone better!

Fingers crossed for you, Selene... hope you hear something soon.   Even if it's bad news, at least it's better than all the worry and uncertainty and fear that you're having now.

hope all will be good!

Hugs!