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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #15 on: May 21, 2004, 10:12:49 PM »
I did have one problem come to think of it.... my GA license is not hyphenated.. they put my maiden name as my middle name and my husbands name as my last name..... I was about to kill --- apparently I was told that GA does not allow for hyphenated names...which I believe is not true but I was in no mood to argue!

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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #16 on: May 21, 2004, 11:31:43 PM »
hyphenated names are so posh! *grin*
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #17 on: May 24, 2004, 09:36:08 AM »
i would hypehenate but it doesn't work together, too long.  :(

i've gotten harassed for dating and choosing to marry a brit one too many times.  they look at me like 'couldn't find an american eh?'   >:(

What really burned me was going to visit my mother last November, the Immigration Officer at Orlando said, "So, we have 3 American Citizens and one alien, huh?"

I found it NOT so funny... >:(
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #18 on: May 24, 2004, 09:55:19 AM »
I dislike the term Alien too. Its rude.
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #19 on: May 24, 2004, 10:02:41 AM »
I'm not fond of the term either but, technically, it is the right one, isn't it? I always wondered about the word history of that term. I'm sure I'll grow to dislike it even more once we're married and my DF will get that... :P
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #20 on: May 24, 2004, 10:29:52 AM »
I'm not fond of the term either but, technically, it is the right one, isn't it? I always wondered about the word history of that term. I'm sure I'll grow to dislike it even more once we're married and my DF will get that... :P

"Three American Citizens and one British Citizen" would have been acceptable.  My husband was not an alien - he was a tourist.

Of course, being the wonderful guy that he is, Phil didn't take any offence.  I was more than happy to take offence for him!  ::)   ;)
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #21 on: May 24, 2004, 11:12:28 AM »


"Three American Citizens and one British Citizen" would have been acceptable.  My husband was not an alien - he was a tourist.

Of course, being the wonderful guy that he is, Phil didn't take any offence.  I was more than happy to take offence for him!  ::)   ;)

I know what you mean and wasn't trying to suggest what they guy said was OK!  :) I would have been happy to take offense, too. I think the problem is that immigration officials suffer from a severe lack of customer service training. They are in the unenviable position of being official government employees with important powers as well as being some of the first faces any tourist, citizen, or other traveller will meet. However, based on some of the earlier posts in this thread, they are poorly trained all around! Makes ya wonder....
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #22 on: May 24, 2004, 11:26:36 AM »


I know what you mean and wasn't trying to suggest what they guy said was OK!  :)

I'm sorry if it came off that way - I wasn't suggesting you were suggesting it was okay!   ;)
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #23 on: May 24, 2004, 06:44:19 PM »
Theres a big part of me that would love to work in Immigration. Either as a case adjuticator or as an immigration offcer "at the gates", if you will. Id really like to up the standard of how tourists and immigrants are treated when they arrive in America - innocent until proven guilty, a smile on my face and a warm welcoming attitute. I agree, the ones we've got these days should get some serious customer service training.
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #24 on: May 24, 2004, 07:27:57 PM »
Theres a big part of me that would love to work in Immigration. Either as a case adjuticator or as an immigration offcer "at the gates", if you will. Id really like to up the standard of how tourists and immigrants are treated when they arrive in America - innocent until proven guilty, a smile on my face and a warm welcoming attitute. I agree, the ones we've got these days should get some serious customer service training.
I feel the same way MarsBar!

I have been told by friends in the field and by our interviewer guy this last time that they are trained....trained to be tough, non-responsive, and no nonesense.  They are taught to assume that the evasion of the law is the norm in any cases that is not straightforward.  Sad..but true...

Our immo guys were pretty mean at first and then once I went into hysterics they were the nicest of guys for the most part. Not that I recommend that tactic to anyone, but after trying our best to follow all the rules and after a long 9 hour flight and a week without a proper sleep I was not in a good mood so to speak!

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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #25 on: May 25, 2004, 04:49:56 AM »
In recent years Ive begun to feel like US Government Officials (Customs, Immigration etc) have started to treat US Citizens who reside abroad like second class citizens. Like we're unpatriotic by living in another country. God forbid we work abroad and have relationships with foreigners who choose not to come to the "one-and-only Land of the Free". Needless to say, it pushes my buttons when I get looks from Immigration like "Why would you do such a thing? Is america not GOOD enough for you?"

Good grief, then what kind of remarks do I and my husband look foward to, seeing as we are both Americans who want to move to the U.K.--just 'cuz?! lol

Ok, actually, we really do have some reasons.  Maybe I should type a list now and make pamphlets to hand out to would-be interrogators. 

1.) We don't like guns, we think our son should grow up in a country where guns don't adorn every wall, car trunk, or belt buckle. 
2.) My son is only 16 months old, and already I dread the day he gets his license.  I hope perhaps I can convince him of the virtues of public transportation before then, and if that doesn't work--the stiff nature of the U.K.'s driving tests might.
3.) Good education for our son.
4.) I am a nursing student who ultimately desires to become a midwife; far better to practice in a country where my chosen profession is actually validated and accepted mainstream by the health care system at large--unlike the U.S. where most doctors still would like to see midwives banished or relegated to playing "nursemaid" only to patronizing OB's.
5.) My husband is an episcopal deacon; can't get much more anglican than the C.O.E.
6.) Mandatory six weeks of paid vacation; which means that although we wouldn't live in the U.S., we would have far more time to visit and see the 50 states before most other Americans would. ;D

I could go on, but I'm sure it won't be long before others come here and "burst" my bubble of idealistic expectations, lol.  Go ahead--dash away my hopes!   ;)

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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #26 on: May 25, 2004, 07:06:20 AM »
I've never had a problem with the name change in the passport. Your experiences sound dreadful, though! I would say that about a quarter of the time I've said "in the back" when I've seen them rechecking the name, otherwise they've beaten me to it. I probably look too old to be a terrorist.  ;D
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #27 on: May 25, 2004, 08:26:37 AM »
.) I am a nursing student who ultimately desires to become a midwife; far better to practice in a country where my chosen profession is actually validated and accepted mainstream by the health care system at large--unlike the U.S. where most doctors still would like to see midwives banished or relegated to playing "nursemaid" only to patronizing OB's.Posted by: CSA_Expatriate

Just wanted to say,good luck on your training. The UK can use good midwives. Saw some newspaper articles on shortage of midwives here in UK recently.  Hang in there and don't give up.

http://society.guardian.co.uk/print/0%2C3858%2C4098134-105965%2C00.html

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/low/health/556806.stm

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/low/health/407968.stm

http://www.parliament.the-stationery-office.co.uk/cgi-bin/htm_hl?DB=ukparl&STEMMER=en&WORDS=childbirth+&COLOUR=Red&STYLE=&URL=/pa/cm199900/cmhansrd/vo000419/halltext/00419h02.htm


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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #28 on: May 25, 2004, 03:45:59 PM »
Wow, Bluerose, thanks!  I appreciate the articles.  :D :D
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Re: Passport Amended to Married Name - Regretting It
« Reply #29 on: May 26, 2004, 09:49:51 AM »
I have an amended page for name change...but from when I was divorced in the states and took back my maiden name...  I automatically show them the last page in passport with amendment on it...and usually do not have any problems...  I have also decided to keep my maiden name for anything concerning the states and hyphening it here in the UK...I have no desire to go through the pain of name changing again...LOL!
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