Very Sad....its so hard being away from the one you love.

I didn't know where else to vent.  I am feeling really sad and down about being apart from my bf.  I am feeling very lonely and Im trying to ignore it.  Ive been crying a lot more lately, and having a hard time coping.  I know I probably shouldn't be complaining since I haven't been apart from my bf as long as others, but we are the type of couple thats likes to spend ALL of our time together.  He has tried to come over, but he was denied entry once and then tried to get a B2 visa and was denied that.  He was coming over too often.  I am planning to visit, but shouldn't really till I get more money.  I have had a string of bad luck and need him.  He seems to be the only one who can calm me down, de-stress, and make me happy.  I have been through so much lately ( lost job, lost house, lost car, finished divorce etc) so I just want to be happy and that means with him.  Plus not to mention my family has disowned me since I want to move to the UK.  I guess Im feeling alone and want my sweetie.  Its so hard.  I need to go over.

 

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. It's never a nice thing being apart from the one that you love. How long have guys been apart? Do you talk frequently?
What helps me through the times when I miss my boyfriend a lot is writing him. It could be a text, an e-mail, or an actual letter, but letting him know that I'm thinking of him always makes me feel better.

Hope you feel better soon!

I'm so sorry you are feeling so down. Most of us have felt like that. It really is difficult to be apart. Try to just focus on your life, though. It sounds like things are a mess right now. Of course you want him to be there for you, but it sounds as though you have plenty to keep you busy looking ahead - finding a job and straightening out the mess you are in. If you dedicate yourself to working things out in your own life so that you CAN be together, then it will happen one day. Try not to just sulk and give in to the self-pity that can be so consuming, and just pick yourself up and try your best to sort things out on your own. Later on, once you are together, you will look back on that and be proud of how strong you were. Good luck to you.

Hey Katrina

That's a helluva lot on your plate. More than most I would think.

Keep coming in and having a 'moan' which is not really a moan but a release. We all need to be able to release.

Are ya able to chat with BF via skype? Sometimes the sound of his voice can help. It won't take it all away but can let you still feel connected and lords know you need that if you family have disowned you. Families really can suck at times. I know. Hopefully they'll change their attitude.

Don't give up. There are people here that DO understand what you are going through.

Try and keep your chin up.

Are ya able to chat with BF via skype? Sometimes the sound of his voice can help.

Skype is a great way to stay connected that has little financial cost.

I'm sorry that your family is being so, so unsupportive at such a time of upheaval and with so many drastic changes. Hang in there. Moan here.

Sending good wishes.

International relationships are tough on their own without having lots of other horrible heaped on your plate.  I know it's so tough when everything feels like it's going wrong and you can't be with the one you love.  It really stinks.  I'm sorry too that your family are being so unsupportive.  I think a lot of people on here have felt the cold shoulder when they decide to move to the UK or say they want to.  Please feel free to keep having a vent on here.  And definitely try skyping.  It can be so helpful. 

Plus not to mention my family has disowned me since I want to move to the UK.  I guess Im feeling alone and want my sweetie.  Its so hard.  I need to go over.

 

Sounds like a perfect time for a change.  Just wanted to extend my sympathies about the family "disowning" you.  I have a similar story about my family being really unsupportive, but that is a very long story! ((((((HUG))))))

I didn't know where else to vent.  I am feeling really sad and down about being apart from my bf.  I am feeling very lonely and Im trying to ignore it.  Ive been crying a lot more lately, and having a hard time coping.  I know I probably shouldn't be complaining since I haven't been apart from my bf as long as others, but we are the type of couple thats likes to spend ALL of our time together.  He has tried to come over, but he was denied entry once and then tried to get a B2 visa and was denied that.  He was coming over too often.  I am planning to visit, but shouldn't really till I get more money.  I have had a string of bad luck and need him.  He seems to be the only one who can calm me down, de-stress, and make me happy.  I have been through so much lately ( lost job, lost house, lost car, finished divorce etc) so I just want to be happy and that means with him.  Plus not to mention my family has disowned me since I want to move to the UK.  I guess Im feeling alone and want my sweetie.  Its so hard.  I need to go over.

 

How often was he coming to you?

This is my worry as well, this will be my third visit next weekend  since february, this being the longest apart ...12 weeks and feel that if I get refused it could hinder the fact if we decide that i will go to U.S via their visa process.

This is why I decided to get a letter from work statijng that I have a job to go back to, airport parking details to prove I have a car to collect on my return my GF e-ticket for her visit in July with her return details and a copy of property deeds I own also, just so to prove my intention is not to over stay!

I am hoping it will not come to being refused it will devistate me and feel for you both.

katrina,  so sorry to hear about your situation and all I can say is stay in touch every way possible... if you can't be there with him, or him with you... telephone , email, online chat, online..err...tiddlywinks, ( mrs. and I played a lot of online tiddlywinks ) snail mail notes.... whatever it takes but stay in contact.

this may sound a touch obsessive ( hmm.. maybe it was ) but Mrs.G  and I spent three years long distance before I could finally make the move ( and we've been together +10 years now. ) 

it can get really hard at times, and sometimes really bad...i live in the us and my bf lives in the UK, the last time we were together was in Feb this year and don't really know when will be able to see each other again..but the only thing you can do is keep is keep communication as often as you can and try to focus on your daily routines. i concentrate on my work so i don't have to think about on how much i love him and miss him...