Okay, I am off to send an email to hubby to try and get ahold of our MP, and maybe get him to help if he can. Even if with just a letter, since it would be better for it to be returned to me, so I can send it registered mail back to him in the UK. I could just send it along with a registered letter to the consulate in NYC (with my application ref #, addy etecetc)
Other than that, much like everyone, who to ask & how to contact them would take an act of Congress, the Queen & God (or at least I am beginning to think that

) Maybe anyone actually answering the phones at these places are like Bigfoot and aliens? We occasionally hear about them but no actual proof of the? Ok, done joking now.
As for my daughter's US passport, I am not worried about that since I know that I have to definately be there for her to get it. If I can get my husband's passport back then I think we would be able to get our daughter's..but then again who knows? Would just like to be able to be with her on her first Christmas. Ahh, the joys or bureacracy

Thanks for all the advice so far...but always welcome more ideas...the more informed I am, the less stupid things I tend to think about

...ok, that's a lie...it's more like the less stupid things I actually do.
~Ange