I am feeling so sad, so lonely, I cannot even begin to describe it, and I guess part of it is my own doing which only goes to make me feel even worse than ever. A bit of background, I guess, will help you understand. I'm a brit married to an American. To cut a long story short, my husband overstayed in the UK for 3 years, he went back early this year to finally get things sorted. We were given inacurate advise and as a result did not disclose the overstay on the application. He came clean on the phone interview and his visa was refused.
We are in the process of applying for the visa again, but I have all but convinced myself that they will refuse us again, even though this time we will tell the whole truth.
How I get through each day I will never know, I miss him more than words can say and I cry myself to sleep every night. I cannot think of anything else but this, I torture myself, wishing we had done things differently, why didn't we get better advise, why didn't we just read up a bit more.
We have been apart 6 months, before this we hadn't been apart for more than a day. We were joined at the hip, we did everything together, we are so in love. Maybe that's why he overstayed, we couldn't bear the thought of being apart.
I don't know what I will do if he is refused again, I don't know how I will cope, I am bearly holding myself together, the only thing that keeps me going is that little string of hope, that maybe, just maybe it will be OK, maybe he will get his visa.
Why is life like this, if only I had fallen in love with another Brit we wouldn't have this problem now, but I didn't, I fell in love with him. He is my world and the world is a lonely place without him.
I am so sorry, I am so unbelievably sorry that we didn't come clean, we didn't know, we were misinformed. We haven't done anything wrong and now we are paying, paying with our lives.
If anyone out there reading this has reservations about disclosing an overstay, please think of us, and just tell them, if only we had, maybe I wouldn't be writing this now.