RIP Jade Goody

http://news.aol.co.uk/jade-goody-dies-after-cancer-battle/article/20090322034159224452097?rsp=uk_mainnews

She died early this morning.

Hasn't been a good week for mummies passing away. 

Hasn't been a good week for mummies passing away.

Is any week?

Is any week?

Well, it depends.  If I had a mother say, who was in her 90s and had severe dementia or was suffering with ill-health, well, I'd be sad to let her go, BUT I would also know that my mother wouldn't want to live that way so I'd be happy for her, too. 

I guess so. My mother died of cancer when I was a child, and as I recall, OK! magazine didn't do an obituary special while she was still alive.

My mother (well, the first one anyway) died when I was two.  I know that how it shaped my life would be different if I were older or younger, but it's not a total rarity for kids to have to deal with parent death.   

Most of the people I know who have had a loved one die after a long and painful decline have felt that the idea that we were meant to be "sad but relieved" or even happy that they weren't in pain put pressure on them to behave a certain way during the grieving process.  A loss is a loss, and that means that even if death would be better than living for the person, it doesn't always cushion the blow for those around them.  Nor should there be an expectation of it doing so.

As for OT, this week has had the very public passing of two women, both of whom died surrounded by family who will love and miss them.  Sad, but not any more so than if they died unknown, unloved, childless, single, and unmourned. 

I had a good boo to this news today.  :\\\'(  I hope wherever Jade is now, she is at peace.

I guess so. My mother died of cancer when I was a child, and as I recall, OK! magazine didn't do an obituary special while she was still alive.

I'm sorry you lost your mother to cancer when you were young, contrex. I really mean that. It must have been difficult for you.

I'm sorry you lost your mother to cancer when you were young, contrex. I really mean that. It must have been difficult for you.

Thank you. I was 14, my sister was 11, and unfortunately my father was a bullying control freak. I daresay it would have been better if he had been the one to die. (Terrible thing to say.) However, it was a long time ago, and I feel that I have not lived an unhappy life as a result.

Thank you. I was 14, my sister was 11, and unfortunately my father was a bullying control freak. I daresay it would have been better if he had been the one to die. (Terrible thing to say.) However, it was a long time ago, and I feel that I have not lived an unhappy life as a result.

I'm glad that you were able to overcome your loss. I'm sorry that your dad made your life difficult and that he bullied you. It sounds as if your life has turned out well, so hopefully you've been able to find peace with your childhood. I know it took me years to make peace with mine.

My parents had been together 20 years when my mother died in 1966 aged 46. My father remarried 5 years later, and my stepmother died last August after they had been together 37 years. My father is now 89 and is tormenting himself greatly about the way he treated me and my sister when we were children. That tears me up more than if he was unrepentant.

Very sad....much too young.  And she had two boys as well...right?  R.I.P Jade

My father is now 89 and is tormenting himself greatly about the way he treated me and my sister when we were children. That tears me up more than if he was unrepentant.

By his recognizing his past mistakes with you and your sister, it probably brings up long buried emotions for you, but hopefully it will help you heal in the long run.

hopefully it will help you heal in the long run.

Yes. I the think the reason I have forgiven and am forgiving him is because firstly otherwise it will fester within me and also because I hope to be forgiven my sins eventually, if that doesn't sound too pious.

Yes. I the think the reason I have forgiven and am forgiving him is because firstly otherwise it will fester within me and also because I hope to be forgiven my sins eventually, if that doesn't sound too pious.

No, of course that doesn't sound pious. I think the most we can hope for is that the person/people who hurt us most in the world will one day recognize it and take responsibility for their mistakes and try to make amends. Nobody's perfect, and I too can only hope to be forgiven all my mistakes. It does no good to hold on to pain and allow that pain to turn into bitterness. I'm glad for your healing Contrex, and hopefully your dad has found healing as well .

RIP Jade