I'm a suitcase mover too! And like everyone has said here, I highly recommend ditching the pots and pans and bringing those things that will make your new home really feel like home.
Since I knew this was going to be my first Christmas with my hubby in our new home I made sure to bring my Christmas ornaments (which did take a lot of space but I'm glad I did). I packed one box that was the largest I could find within the space requirements with Christmas things and other knick knacks... I had one suitcase filled with clothes and a second carry-on suitcase filled with some fragile items and clothes. I also found the largest purse looking bag possible for my "personal item".
My only regret (and therefore my suggestion to you) is to stock up on any US cosmetics you use before you come. They are wicked expensive here if you can find. Everything else will be easy for you to replace.
Oh, and one other tip, dress in layers on the plane. Wear bulky items (like a big sweater or coat) to save a little bit more space too!
Have a safe trip and WELCOME!
