so what WAS the point in getting a spouse visa and marrying?

I'm angry that I am alone at Christmas. My husband and I have been split since August and not only am I going to be alone for the second year at Christmas I am angry about it.

Now that I am totally alone in the UK and not with someone ... I am begining to wonder why I shouldn't just get on the airplane and .... go home!

I came over here to be with him, yet it seems that he thinks it is okay and reasonable to hit a woman.
I disagree.
So here I am .. wondering why did I try to be strong?
Is there anyone out there for me?
Is there anything that I can do to make my life better?
What hurts the most is... that I will be alone on Christmas.

Last year I was made to be alone at Christmas because my husband did not want to spend the time with me. So that is why I say it is the second year. Irregardless I am just really upset about this whole mess.

I have filed for set dv so that I can stay because I love my job, but a job does not make up for my family. A job does not make up for the fact that I have no one here.

No one really understands that you have no one here. You have left everything.. One friend said to me "Don't you have any mates?"  ....... no, I don't have any mates.
I've come to this country so that I can be with my husband. I never grew up here I don't have any mates here and the mates that I do have here are with their own families at Christmas.

Thanksgiving, it was me ... sitting in my house eating a turkey by myself...
Yes it took five days to eat it.
No one came even though I invited people.

The woman in the store asked me to come back next week when I bought the turkey and I said I needed it now.

 

You have been, and still are, going through a very difficult time. I don't blame you for feeling angry.  Have you been in contact with Women's Refuge? Maybe they have or know of a Xmas event you could attend.  They also offering counselling and other support that you may find useful.  You could also ask for a referral to the Freedom Programme, if you didn't get one already.

http://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/freedomprogramme/index.cfm

I hope things get better for you.

Thanks very much I am looking at the website now but no I had not heard of it before. Ive been in touch with the womens refuge and they are helping with housing issues.

I just heard from my worker today as she'd been off from work for some reason. I do not know if there is any christmas program but have noted that there are not as many Christians in the UK as there were back home. I'm from Michigan that is.

I hope that my ilr application comes back in a timely manner but i don't think i can count on that since i live in ... britian and they think they can take their time doing everything.

I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time. I have to say, I think if I were in your shoes and hated as much as you seem to, I'd go home so I could have the support of my family and friends. I know you really like your job, but surely you could find a job you enjoy in Michigan. I guess I'm not so sure if this is something you should have to deal with alone.

aww you are understandably angry and you should be allowed to be angry when you want too...It is part of the healing but I am glad you realized to get out - hitting a woman is never acceptable I dont care where you live.

Can you go home for the holidays to gain some family spirit and support? Is it a possibility?
If you are religious is there a church feeding the less fortunate you could get involved in?

I tell you if I was there I would have you over for Xmas although I have never met you because I believe in Karma and if I was ever in that position I would want someone to be there for me.  A stranger can sometimes care more then a relative.

Take Care and I do hope you follow your passion and end up where you want to be.

Jenn

Now that I am totally alone in the UK and not with someone ... I am begining to wonder why I shouldn't just get on the airplane and .... go home!

 

I dont know you, but from reading your posts, I cant see how you would think anything other than this.   Your experience in the UK wasnt what you thought it would be, you dont like the UK or the people who live here, you still call the US "home", and you are so right that a job (no matter how great it is or even if the salary is outstanding) doesnt make up for having people around who love and care about you. 

I dont want this to sound horrible, but I am afraid it might, so my apologies in advance, but when someone is as bitter and guarded as you are (and you have every right to be) you are not going to come across in the best way to make any friends, so I cant see your situation improving drastically enough to make you happy in the UK.
As much as you may not want to "go home with your tail between your legs", it may be the best thing for you.

Good luck.