Getting Worse as Time Apart Comes to a Close

Whew! Sorry for the long title, but something like this is kind of difficult to put into words :\\\'(

Anyway, my girlfriend Kat and I met in York in the Fall of 2002 while I was studying at York St. John as part of an exchange program. As a 19-year-old who thought he knew it all in matters of love, I was really blown away by this girl, and long story short...(as you probably guessed) I fell madly in love with her, and she with me.

When I came back to the States that summer, things went great with her. We talked every day on the phone...found little ways to surprise each other (I just have to share one....this Valentine's Day, Kat contacted my local radio station and had them play 'our song' Slide Away by Oasis exactly when I called her- the best present I received in my life

Anyway, flash forward to this year. I have been out of school since December and after a brief visit to her over there, started working as a substitute teacher until I get enough money to support myself in the land of HMV and Waterstones. I'm all ready to head on back to do my MA work in History (or Refugee Studies) and I suddenly find that just talking to her every day, sending her three or four emails just doesn't seem enough. I don't know if it's the anticipation that's killing me or what-but especially now, as my summer is a bit more freer, I have more time to dwell on her. It just seems to sting more now.


I'm planning to go back right before the MA courses I am looking at start (end of September beginning of Oct.) Does anyone have any advice on how to make the next two months hurt slightly less 

Awww...all I can say is hang in there.  Most of us have had similar experiences in the weeks leading up to another meeting with our beloved.  I think it's just nerves...getting nervous about seeing each other again always made me pick little fights and just act like a moron in general.    In fact, a few people on the forum have suggested that "less is more" when coming up on a visit....maybe you could whittle your contact down a bit for a while?  That way you'd really treasure the one phone call a day, etc.

I can say for certain that you having extra time to dwell is not a good thing!  I was the same way--I was a teacher when my husband and I were doing the long-distance thing and the school holidays were terrible for us because I had soooo much time to think about how far apart we were.  Try to force yourself to be busy...find something, anything to do other than think about the distance.

Ultimately though, it's just a matter of weeks until you're together again!   

just do your best to keep busy and learn the word patience forward and backward...  break the time down in sections...so when each section ends...the time will become a lot closer... 

Oh the memories of the time apart...  its good to be reminded of them now and then...makes ya stop and think and appreciate your life together after such a long wait.

..first I gotta say -- LOVE 'your' song choice. It's been one of my favs since that album came out 

And I'll second (third? ) what the others have said... and I'm in the first quarter of a year long seperation. So at the moment I am doing what mfredericka suggests. Breaking my time into sections. Marking things like the upcoming Olympics, Oct-Dec (I work retail and will be busy busy..) ..both our birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas. His military transfers, etc. Basically anything I can put on a calendar. I'm mentally dreading September, nothing to mark it! So I've planned a weekend at the coast for something fun and different to look forward to. It sounds silly maybe but if I look at it just as May 27, 2005 (when he is done w/ the army) it's overwhelming.

In the past right before we've seen each other I sort of lose my mind. I can't put a finger on it, but I'll miss him so much I can't see straight... and can be a little irrational. So I have to agree that less is more as tough as it is.  And the best part is as soon as you see her waiting for you at the airport (or wherever) it all will just disappear. ..and all seem incredibly worth it.

So, really.. I'm just agreeing with what they have already said.  But you aren't alone. I think plenty of people here have either been there... or are sitting in your shoes right now.

And Lola is right, it *is* just a matter of weeks! I'd kill to be in your shoes right now 

-Kristen

I was in your boat last summer - I know it's sooo hard to have patience!

Are you working? I got a super fun summer job (a lot of busy places will hire you temporarily, especially if they're tourist places that need extra summer help!) pouring wine at a winery and it helped soooo much - I got paid to talk not only about wine but about my move (everyone inevitably asks you how came to work in such a fun place and it's a great way to get people talking to say you're biding your time before moving to England!!) Plus it was always really busy and people who came in were happy and chatty - it made time go soooo much faster.

I also made a huge "to do" list (not hard to do when preparing to move!) and just enjoyed ticking stuff off of it as it made it seem like the more I got done the sooner I'd be leaving!

Hang in there!!!

OH MY GOODNESS!!!!! 
How ironic!! My fiance and I are going to be meeting again Saturday, Aug 14th and marrying Aug 16th, and we've been literally at each others throats!! I keep telling him i'm gonna be mute and totally invisible for the next week fi the fighting doesn't stop!! LOL
It's been absolutely horrible, but it's a mixture of things too, the distance, the pre-wedding jitters, the anticipation of the wait, and the excitement alll wrapped up in one!!
We managed to have a good day today, so keep your chin up, it's killing me to be so far away from him, especially so close in nature to the wedding, but it'll all pay off in the end, because i'll have him in my arms forever  So it does get better, just find something else to do, take up a good book, start taking walks, visit the local gym, go biking...something time consuming and mind-refreshing!!! It's been a big help for me.