Firstly, immigration status does not necessarily correlate to ROR/RNOR status. She may be taking ILR for convenience, which may have nothing to do with intention. Intention can be based on a variety of factors but the burden of proof is on you. So if you are happy that you can prove intention if called to do so, then don't particularly worry about her immigration status, all else being equal.
I assume you are asking because you are receiving overseas workday relief. You mention that your 2nd anniversary is soon so your question may actual be a bit moot. You only qualify for OSWDR up to the beginning of the tax year in which your 3rd anniversary falls. So if your 3rd anniversary falls in March 2011 (or the 10/11 tax year), you lose your OSWDR as of 6 April 2010. So you may be ROR from 6 April by default.
Also, an immigration answer not a tax one, your wife can just apply for FLR again rather than ILR. ILR is not required. Though, the immigration rules have tightened and if you ever think you may come back to the UK, your wife may want to consider getting not just ILR but citizenship.