Hello,
Just need some space to vent my stress, and this seemed the best place to do it, seeing as although centred on the wedding, it's not ALL abut the wedding, plus Hitching Post is pretty fluffy and positive, and right now I feel far from fluffy and positive about my wedding.
Here are the stress factors:
1) His family are coming over from the States for the wedding. His mother has never been to the UK before so feel HUGE pressure to make sure she doesn't think I've lured her son away from the USA for a lower standard of living here. This is in part related to:
2) We're moving house just before the wedding. In principle, this would be fine, because we are only moving round the corner, we have lived there before, and we are good friends with the landlord. In practice: IT'S STILL A BUILDING SITE! The brand new, lovely kitchen was supposed to go in 3 weeks ago but hasn't. All the other work depends on the kitchen being in place because the kitchen parts are currently sitting in the living room, so no space to move things around for decorating purposes. No word yet when this is going to happen. I don't want his mother to think we're going to be living in some crappy half-finished slum, when acutally, it should be a really nice house.
3) The best man (DF's best buddy from US) and his wife and other friends, are meant to be staying at the new house. We have other people staying at the old house. If we have no new house, they have nowhere to stay. Will have to think of backup. I don't want to have to think of backup.
4) I have a big freelance job on at the moment on top of my other work. I really need the money because OH is about to start a distance learning qualification which we have to pay for somehow. He needs to do this in order to earn more money in the future and get anywhere with his career, but the timing couldn't be worse. This is adding to the stress.
5) OH's FLR(M) visa application. I don't think I need to elaborate on this. I'm sure you all know the stress. And ANOTHER cost.
6) Planning the wedding. I just resent every minute I have to spend doing this right now. I don't believe any of the 'best day of your life' crap. If this is it, then why don't people just shoot themselves the day after to avoid the following 50 years of disappointment? The trouble is, if I don't put any effort in it's going to be rubbish. I am worried that I am about to burst out of my clothes and become BRIDEZILLA. Which won't be pretty...
HUMPH.
Thanks for reading.