Facebook Friend Purge.... who to choose?

Ok, so a few of you may have read my rant about what things were going on back home.... and a few of you from here are my friends on Facebook and probably saw the status update that I put on Friday.... something to the effect of "I want to go home and punch fake people and they will get some karma".

Well someone back from back home read that, and then decided to gossip it to all of my Mom's employees and caused a whole lot of controversy yesterday.  The gossip was someone that I considered a family friend.... just shows that sometimes you don't know who to trust.

Obviously she is deleted from my facebook now, and I have also blocked her from being able to look anything up about me....

But this has got me to thinking who do I give the axe to?  I've already deleted quite a few people that I never talk to anyways, people who's status updates annoy me...

But what about old high school/college friends? I was friends with them back then...I don't talk to them much now....but it is fun to check in once in awhile and see what they are up to? My husband reckons I shouldn't be friends with work colleagues on Facebook, however, I love my job and would never gripe about them.


How do you know when to keep a friend on Facebook or give them the boot?


Disclaimer: no one I'm friends with from UKY will be getting deleted... 

I wish I could help, I am the worst kind of facebooker, I have everyone on mine, family, friends and workmates. I'm however very picky about who goes on my FB and  don't add just anyone. If I am forced to add someone (like a family member who you can't say no to) then they go on my limited profile which is severely restricted.

I think that if you're not really all that interested in the persons life or particularly bothered about keeping in touch then it's time to let them go. If you anticipate problems with someone, then I'd either put them on a limited profile so that you can control what they see or you just take them off altogether to save you from the hassle.

It's a shame your family friend was such a butthead.

I wish I could help, I am the worst kind of facebooker, I have everyone on mine, family, friends and workmates. I'm however very picky about who goes on my FB and  don't add just anyone. If I am forced to add someone (like a family member who you can't say no to) then they go on my limited profile which is severely restricted.

This is the same for me EXCEPT I rarely add people from work. Not that I ever complain about work on FB or anything, but I like to keep work/personal life separate. I know that it has caused issues with my friends in the past so I just avoid it. Then again, I have friends who have never had problems so everyones situation is different.

Yeah, and that's exactly how I've been in the past... just added everybody....however it's come to bite me back big time... so now I'm trying to purge....

I just don't want to go too far....

It is really a personal choice....I have lived all over gods creation when I was younger and have been online since 93 so needless to say I have lots of contacts.

Its nice for me to be caught up but I will say this if I leave a message to someone or say hi or happy birthday and nothing is returned and its just there for them to check up on people I axe them.

Its a personal choice for me - I dont have time for limited settings (except for clients who are friends we have each others numbers) I have my address hidden just because its safer to me.

I dont know I do clean up every 6 months as really  I have over 200 contacts and WHY I have no idea haha

I dont know I do clean up every 6 months as really  I have over 200 contacts and WHY I have no idea haha

See I think that's the thing... I had close to 300 when I started axing them....now I've got about 160. I've kept people that I was actually close friends to in high school and college...but the people I was just kinda friends with have gotten the axe.  Plus if I haven't spoken to them since adding them on FB they got the axe too.  Really, once I started deleting people it was hard to stop, hahaha.

The thing that erks me is that I may need to censor myself on FB as well...since I am from a small town and everyone knows my family, its obvious after this little incident that nothing I say is actually safe from being taken out of context or spread as a vicious rumour....

Censor yourself on YOUR Facebook?
Naaaa those people block them or dump them

Make it do they cant see your wall - why keep them? so they can see your pictures?

Its a social site and guess what you have a right to say whatever you want ;-)

Its a social site and guess what you have a right to say whatever you want ;-)

I totally agree. I don't censor myself and I have my grandmother on my FB. (although she's a very hip grandmother and is worse than I am in some respect)

I'm really big about personalised privacy settings too, though. I make it so that none of the photos other people have put up and tagged of me are viewable by others on my FB. That's the only thing I don't like. Grandma is hip but she doesn't need to see that photo of me on a night out looking a little worse for wear and flashing boob.

Thanks jenn and ashley! I didn't feel right about censoring myself...for the most part I'm a fairly upbeat person and i think i rarely complain...however when someone crosses me, come hell or high water, I'm gonna speak my mind!

I am friends with most of my aunts and uncles on facebook, and not one of them complains or remarks about any of the shenanigans they can see on there...its just those few randoms on there that I need to watch I guess.

And Ashley your grandma sounds rad, but I don't blame you for not wanting to show her the boob shot. LOL!

A similar thing happened to me but with family(cousins). I got upset and I deleted them all. I just can't can't stand fake people.

There are a lot of jealous and dramatic people out there that just want to be your fb friends to see whats going on in your life, waiting for something to happen or go wrong so they can goossip about it and feel better about their misserable lives.

It is really a personal choice. I will say go over your list of friends and ask yourself if you really want to keep them or not.

Sorry to hear about the family troubles, definitely cut the negative and fake people from your "virtual" life

Thanks pitufina, sounds exactly like you know how this fb drama goes. And i can't stand drama, just as much as i can't stand fake people. I figure in a couple months time i'll re-evaluate who i've spared the axe to this time around.