Parental disagreements

My husband and I don't disagree on alot of parental decisions-but occasionally, and the older they get, I'm finding it a bit harder to merge.  I have ALWAYS said no tvs in the bedrooms.  It's something that I strongly beleive.  I think it ups their viewing hours too much and cuts down on family interaction.  Well, we had to replace our big tv and the husband and kids had trouble tuning in the N64 on the new tv.  And their solution was to buy a second hand tv and put it in the girls' bedroom while I was at work.  I'm pretty livid about it, but unfortunatly the deed is done and I will be BIG EVIL MUMMY if I do anything now, plus I don't think it's fair to reverse his decision.  At the moment my plan is to hopefully let the novelty wear off, then move it. 
Has anyone else had different views than their partners?  How'd you solve them?  Any hard or fast rules? 

Don't have kids, but have always thought the same thing about TVs in the bedrooms.  I'd be pretty annoyed in the same situation. 

Hi Mindy, I confess, I'm not a parent either (yet!!), but I did have a thought about the immediate situation regarding the TV. As you said, the deed is done, but that doesn't stop you from establishing some pretty strict rules regarding it! Seriously restricted viewing time on that TV? Or things that have to happen regularly or the TV disappears ---such as various chores, homework, etc? Only certain things at certain times are watched on that TV?

As for the united front with your husband... I'm sure he knows how PO'd you are now so hopefully he'll back up any new rules. I know that down the road I will be the bad guy parent. I always thought myself a real soft touch but but I'm already the bad guy with our pets - the DF is really a soft touch!

Good luck!

Stepson wanted his pc in his own room, husband and I both agreed that was a really bad idea, same with a tv. But then without discussing it, husband put the PS2 in the stepson's room as a compromise. [The tv isn't connected to cable so he can only use it for the PS2]

It pisses me off to no end that DH and I will go to bed and stepson has been told to get off pc and go to bed... but I can hear him on that damn PS2. I see zero difference... DH says if he's being quiet it shouldn't be a problem. I don't know why I have such a problem with it, but I do. Probably because I think DH didn't ask me what I thought because he knew the answer would be NO.

Well, I'm the one who crawled off to the bedroom to watch the marathon today (although I did tidy while I was in there ) so I guess I can't complain too much. 

I think it's just a case of me being tired of ALWAYS having to be the hardass. 

Stepson wanted his pc in his own room, husband and I both agreed that was a really bad idea, same with a tv. But then without discussing it, husband put the PS2 in the stepson's room as a compromise. [The tv isn't connected to cable so he can only use it for the PS2]

It pisses me off to no end that DH and I will go to bed and stepson has been told to get off pc and go to bed... but I can hear him on that damn PS2. I see zero difference... DH says if he's being quiet it shouldn't be a problem. I don't know why I have such a problem with it, but I do. Probably because I think DH didn't ask me what I thought because he knew the answer would be NO.

way to solve that one and not be the total mean and evil mom by removing tv and ps2 is take the controller when you or your DH tuck him in... that way he can't be tempted to stay up to play... if he wants to stay up anyway well make sure he has some good books... thats how we worked it at my house... Jo

nvrwas... I agree with that, DH doesn't... that's the crux of the issue