Sappy Hellos & Weepy Goodbyes

Once again I had to say goodbye to my dear bf at the airport.

I feel the longer that we've been together, the harder it is to say goodbye to one another. I am not much of a crier, but last night and today I have cried so much that my tear ducts have probably dried up. It's funny because I know that I will see him again. We've even started planning for the upcoming holidays with our families (he will come over for Thanksgiving, I will come over for Christmas and the New Year).

Doesn't it feel as if being able to be together for a week or two is like being teased. You get so excited to meet your love from the airport after being apart for months. Feel the most complete and have the time of your life; then back off to the airport again to say weepy goodbyes and give last hugs and kisses until 5 or 6 months down the road when you can get all excited again.

It's funny how we do this to ourselves. I am starting to have a love/hate relationship with airports and immigration. All the things we do just to be with the one that you love. It sucks, but in the end it's worth it. All though at this point in time my whole body feels pretty numb and emotionless (the tell tale signs of having to be apart once again).

I am just hoping that with this lovely support group on my side that I will be back on my toes in a matter of no time. It's nice to know that there's others out there in the same situation that you can relate to.  

This is what people don’t ever seem to get.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people tell me (after hearing about my English BF, now DF) that being with an Englishman is every girls dream and that it’s beyond romantic to jet across an ocean to see each other.  Something about his accent is usually thrown in there too.  I always just nod, or say that it’s hard being apart so much. 

The truth it, it freaking sucks!  On the one hand I don’t want to complain.  I found the best person possible for me, the person who being with makes me happier than I’ve ever been before.  For goodness sakes, we first met at a pub in Hong Kong for about 2 hours.  Who would have ever thought that we would even keep in touch?!?!  Not everyone gets that and I feel very lucky.  However, life would be so so much easier on so many levels if we lived in each other’s back yards. 

MissCupeCakez, a lot of people on this board did the back and forth far longer than I will end up doing it and have far better stamina than I do, I’m sure.  But I totally understand.  Over the past two years each trip has gotten more and more bittersweet.  Usually by Wednesday I’m ready to burst into tears.  When he leaves my apartment I end up on the bed crying like a teenager who just got dumped. 

I am so happy that we’ve only got one of these left, and we will only be apart for the length of time it takes for my visa to process.  I hope that you and your boyfriends back and forth will be over when your ready for it to be, and not a year, or years later!

When he leaves my apartment I end up on the bed crying like a teenager who just got dumped. 

THIS!

Oh my goodness. Whenever my fella would come for a visit and then leave I would be absolutely devastated for days and days. It's a wonder really how I managed to drive myself back to my apartment from the airport with swollen eyes due to non-stop hardcore crying. And of COURSE the crying would start a day or so before he was to leave.

I know a couple that did the transatlantic LDR thing for over 5 years. I can't even imagine going through the torture for that long. As cliche as it sounds, I knew from the moment I spoke to my boy that I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. We've been together for about 16 months now and 3 weeks ago we tied the knot Knowing there's an end to this LDR is such a nice feeling (as long as the visa goes through smoothly - fingers crossed!).

Being separated is so hard. Saying good bye is the worst...but holy moly, the second you find yourself back in your beloved's arms it's as though you completely forget how much the distance sucks!

MizzCupcakez, I suggest spending LOTS of time with friends and setting small milestones to look forward to that may or may not have anything to do with your boyfriend. For instance - last summer he left in May and I wasn't going to see him again til December. I focused on fun things I had planned in the meantime - big and small (Dinner with my friends, new films coming out, seeing Lady Gaga in concert, etc.). It really helped to make the time (in retrospect) fly by! Hang in there, girl. For every tear you shed right now, I'm willing to bet a dozen smiles take their place when y'all are together!

MizzCupCakez, I am about to go through what you are going through...well, after my husband comes for a visit then leaves We are counting down the days (28!!! YAY!!!) He will be here for 3 weeks and I am already dreading our weepy goodbye. And, yes, it seems the deeper our feelings got for one another the harder it has been to say goodbye.

When he leaves I get that numb, emotionless feeling too. The first week after he leaves I spend moping around...ugh, I am just so miserable when he leaves. It helps to keep myself busy with school and the kids.

Just wanted to say I totally know what you're going through. It isn't easy, but what we have is so worth it.

Watching my boyfriend pack up to leave the next morning is the worst part for me. I know I should be in another room not watching but it's hard to do that when you know you only have a few hours left together.

As soon as he's gone I start planning on things we can do together the next time we see each other and getting organised with things I want to do for myself or do with my kids. Focusing on those things always helps. I also always feel on a kind of high from the time we've spent together that gets me through that first week or so. I find the times after that harder when I start to forget what it feels like to have him around.

Yay! At least I am not the only one. I know my parents and friends have had such a hard time trying to understand why my bf and I can keep our relationship going strong being so far apart. It's definitely work, but when it comes down to it I love him dearly. I couldn't see myself with any one else. I mean after the sappy goodbyes, at least this time around, it took me almost two weeks to really get back on my feet and focused. 

It just sucks going out with couple friends, or even seeing couples together because you know that you have that, just not here and now. It's getting over that hump that's making me upset. For example I watched some cheesy chick flick the other night about a girl who was falling for Brit and how he whisked her away back to England with not having to go through immigration, or having visa waiting periods. I want to punch those actors because it's not realistic. lol Oh well our waits are definitely worth it in the end.

We did the long distance thing for over ten years. We didn't mean to. I'd've been horrified if I'd known it would be that long.

But it was one thing after another. Family emergencies, issues with pensions and property. We're older, so our issues were complicated. On other other hand, we're older so we weren't desperately lusty bunnies.

Was it worth it? Oh, yes! But it was still a drag to live through.

I know how you feel, i got back two weeks ago from San Diego where i met my girlfriend for the first time now we skyped all the time knew everything about each other but nothing could prepare me for the moment when i got into the baggage hall and couldnt see her... so i quickly ran to a payphone and ran her and due to the car park being shut she had to drive round.

So when i first saw her and she got out of the car i was blow away how perfect she was and she came and hugged me and kissed me on the lips now that kiss will never be forgotten.... So 11 days passed and after the most amazing time of my life i had to leave which then became the hardest moment in my life to say goodbye to the one i love to know this would be the last kiss in how ever long to walk away even though you want to turn around.....

now it was hard for me the first week adjusting back to English life because to me it felt like i didnt belong here and everything i left there was me. Still to this day i get upset about only seeing her on skype everyday and not being able to kiss or hug her but i got straight onto applying for jobs i think 90 was the last count and still nothing back so we have put other plans into place. She is coming over at the end of August im going there in December then one more visit and hopefully in July she can move over but the whole airport thing will never get any easier just remember that it isnt gooodbye its cya later i love you

It's the worst feeling ever.  33 days though and I'm back with my visa