3 Years Later It's Over :(

Very sorry to hear. 

But glad to hear you have supportive friends who are there for you.

Be kind to yourself these next few days.  *huggles*

Sorry for what you are going through. Breakups suck.  Hang in there... you will feel better in time. (((HUGS)))

Thank you all SO much!

Finally got a chance to speak to her & got a lot of closure which was nice. We're still going to stay in touch but not talk for a little while. I'm glad it ended okay and not ugly. Still sad & crying bunches but it just wasn't our time.

sorry to hear that, pal.

you deserve so much better, and dinnae worry, pal - there's plenty fish, as they say!

good luck.

Yesterday my fiancée (UK) broke up with me (California). We had known each other for 3 years, been engaged for over a year and were four months away from me moving over there and getting married. I wasn't planning on applying for the fiancée visa until April so at least I'm not out like $1200 or anything. But it's terrible.

LDR was rough for us but we always managed with a visit every 3 months. Sometimes it was 6 months. I JUST saw her last month & we were totally fine. She got scared, worried that it wasn't going to be worth it in the end and she doesn't have faith in us anymore as a couple. She said she still loves me but just wasn't sure we were going to make it so we ended it.

Telling everyone has been hard. I've cried loads yesterday and today. My dreams of walking down the aisle, of making pancakes for us in the mornings, of maybe even having kids with her are all gone.

She broke up with me last year but ended up getting back together after about four days. I feel so pathetic for wanting her back now even though it took me so long to trust her again after the first time. I think this is just it. The final strike. I don't know if I could respect myself if I got back together with her. I don't think that we'll ever get back together or even be friends. It's just...horrible. My heart feels ripped in half.

Anyways, just want to thank this site for being so amazing and informative and helpful. Without it I wouldn't have been able to find anything about moving there.

It all feels like such a bad dream.

 

Hey Antigonesgift, you know what there s NOTHING like the pressure of impending moves across the world to test a relationship, IMO. It's life changing.

At least that was the case with me, and you know what? It's for the best, as if you can make it through the otherside it's a good sign, if not...well you should take great solice in the fact you find out now rather than later. Think, being on the other side of the world, your support network being statesidey and haven given everthing up... Ouch, even worse for you.

Also when the pressure's on people can make rash decisions, say things they dont mean and maybe once the dust settles and the foot is off the gas pedal, you both might see things from a different perspective. I think it's great you have got closure and are looking to be friends but just wanted to reassure you, everything happens for a reason. 

Hey Antigonesgift, you know what there s NOTHING like the pressure of impending moves across the world to test a relationship, IMO. It's life changing.

At least that was the case with me, and you know what? It's for the best, as if you can make it through the otherside it's a good sign, if not...well you should take great solice in the fact you find out now rather than later. Think, being on the other side of the world, your support network being statesidey and haven given everthing up... Ouch, even worse for you.

Also when the pressure's on people can make rash decisions, say things they dont mean and maybe once the dust settles and the foot is off the gas pedal, you both might see things from a different perspective. I think it's great you have got closure and are looking to be friends but just wanted to reassure you, everything happens for a reason. 

Thank you so much for your advice & reassurance. Tomorrow marks the one month mark of being apart and I'm already handling it far better than I thought I would. I've finally been taking care of myself, catching up on things I haven't spent as much time with (like hanging out with friends, treating myself to a new pair of shoes, saving up for some post-college classes) and it's been nice. So thank you so much & to everyone here who offered me awesome support & kindness. I appreciate it more than I can say 

Thank you so much for your advice & reassurance. Tomorrow marks the one month mark of being apart and I'm already handling it far better than I thought I would. I've finally been taking care of myself, catching up on things I haven't spent as much time with (like hanging out with friends, treating myself to a new pair of shoes, saving up for some post-college classes) and it's been nice. So thank you so much & to everyone here who offered me awesome support & kindness. I appreciate it more than I can say 

Thanks for the update!  It's always great to hear how it's going afterwards when someone shares a major event on the forum.   It's so great to hear you are doing so well and giving yourself a few treats here and there!  I'm sure you deserve it.