Hello from Boston!

Not sure if I should post this here, but I don't want to make a separate thread for it since it doesn't quite feel like it fits anywhere else!

The talk went well! I explained the work visa situation in great detail and why I couldn't get one, and he listened in disbelief for a bit before remarking, "Wow, we're dicks!"

I tentatively explained and outlined the fiancee prospect. He suggested a civil partnership instead but we learned that was listed exclusively for same-sex couples. So we thought for a while. And he said he wasn't uncomfortable with doing it, but he's still a bit confused on what marriage means to him. He's one of the types of people who doesn't think marriage is really necessary, whereas I'm a total romantic. However after hearing my views and why I think it's not exactly a harmful thing, he admitted that he was just a bit confused on it all - but that he's not opposed to it.

And, he said, my big move is over a year away - who knows? By then, he might be leaping at the chance to marry me anyway but we agreed that, by that time, if work visas haven't eased up and there's still no other way, we're going to just go ahead and do it anyway! We're head over heels for each other and nothing is going to stop us from being together.

Suspect work visas aren't going to get any easier 

We were lucky, in a way, because I had had a full year of working (academic exchange) so not only did we come to realize we "belonged" on a permanent basis but I knew what living in the UK would be like. I did come back to the US on a trial basis for about 6 months before we got engaged. But yeah -- we had to communicate via air-letters in those days!! No internet, Skype, etc.!! That definitely pushes you into the big decision. Plus it was totally easy getting a spouse visa back in those days. I don't envy anyone going through it nowadays.

I grew up in Medway and the neighboring town of Holliston for most of my life! :O

My cousins grew up in Holliston their whole life...now they both live in Medway!   

Glad to hear the talk with your boyfriend went well.  At least you're formulating some sort of plan to be together and you're both open to possibilities.  That's the best way to be (IMO).  Good luck!   

Welcome Fandango! I'm new as well to the forums, hopefully we both get to the UK soon =)

Welcome to the forum.   It is never too early to start looking and planning for your move.  I won't be  moving until the end of 2012 or beginning of 2013 and I started a couple of months ago.  So much to learn and do.  You are on the right track.  Good luck!

A bit late, but hiya from a fellow Bostonian!

Strictly speaking, I grew up in CT, but went to MA for school and ended up staying for a job.  Was there for a while before moving to the UK.