Another American Joining IN!!!

Hello Everyone!

My name is Nikki and I'm also the best friend of Clangers_girl. I'm 38 and originally from Northern Indiana (up around the South Bend area). Since Aug. 28, 2008 I have been living in the Netherlands with my wonderful dutch boyfriend. I met him while on one of my many vacations here to visit some good friends that are also Dutch. In 2008, I just never went home! 

Though being in the relationship with him has been great, living in the Netherlands hasnt been. It's a beautiful country with much to offer, just not to me, or at least that is how it feels. The entire time that I have lived here, it's been terribly frustrating in the job search. No one willing to give me an interview. Financially getting by but not with much left over to finish my schooling to learn the language. It just seems to be one brick wall after the other. I'm now at the point, where the stress of it all is starting to affect my happiness and my life and I needed to find a solution. That solution is to come to England.

My boyfriend loves England and has visited and vacationed many times over the last 25 yrs. When I talked to him about this possibility, he was totally open for it and even a little excited. So....to make a long winded message come to an end. We're going for it. So, I can use any and all information and tips that you all may have to help guide me in the right directions.

Thanks for listening or more so, reading, this lengthy HELLO!

Nikki C.

Hello and Welcome! It sounds like England might be the perfect answer for you and feel a bit more like home. I look forward to hearing your journey and wish you all the best.

Welcome to the forum! That's one of the more interesting paths to the UK we've seen.

Welcome to the forum and good luck on your journey to the UK!!!!!!

Thanks ladies!! I appreciate the warm welcome very much!

HG, I lost my father just over a year and half ago (March 2010). Since then, my home sickness for my family has been quite unbearable at times. And as much as I'd love nothing more then to return to the states to live for awhile and make more memories with my mom before that opportunity isnt there anymore, I know that it's not realistic. My boyfriend has a very rare syndrome called Kallmann's. He has to take testosterone regularly because his body doesnt produce it or he'll get sick. Here in the Netherlands the price for just a 3mos. dosage is in the thousands. I know with the insurance in the states, we'd never be able to afford our share of the medication for him to not get sick, etc. So....my hope is that during my research into the possibilities of coming to England to live, I'll find that all the important aspects of our needs can be met and finally after 3yrs almost 4, my life can finally begin to come back to some normalacy. England was the happy middle for both of us. I can live in a country where the language wont hold me back from getting a job that I know I can do, yet we're close enough to come back to the Netherlands as often as needed or wanted to visit my boyfriends family or our friends and visa versa. We're both ready for a new and exciting start in our lives, so i'm keeping my fingers crossed....and toes, and hair and eyes and legs and arms....etc. I think you get how badly I want this to happen and work out. LOL

Anyway, Thanks again ladies!!! I do have a few questions so I'll be tryin to figure out where I need to post them and then I'm sure you'll see more from me. Have a great week!

Nikki

Hello and Welcome! It sounds like England might be the perfect answer for you and feel a bit more like home. I look forward to hearing your journey and wish you all the best.

HG, I lost my father just over a year and half ago (March 2010). Since then, my home sickness for my family has been quite unbearable at times. And as much as I'd love nothing more then to return to the states to live for awhile and make more memories with my mom before that opportunity isnt there anymore, I know that it's not realistic. My boyfriend has a very rare syndrome called Kallmann's. He has to take testosterone regularly because his body doesnt produce it or he'll get sick. Here in the Netherlands the price for just a 3mos. dosage is in the thousands. I know with the insurance in the states, we'd never be able to afford our share of the medication for him to not get sick, etc. So....my hope is that during my research into the possibilities of coming to England to live, I'll find that all the important aspects of our needs can be met and finally after 3yrs almost 4, my life can finally begin to come back to some normalacy. England was the happy middle for both of us. I can live in a country where the language wont hold me back from getting a job that I know I can do, yet we're close enough to come back to the Netherlands as often as needed or wanted to visit my boyfriends family or our friends and visa versa. We're both ready for a new and exciting start in our lives, so i'm keeping my fingers crossed....and toes, and hair and eyes and legs and arms....etc. I think you get how badly I want this to happen and work out. LOL

Nikki, I hope things turn out well for you and your boyfriend.  I was reading your post with interest, because my first husband had Klinefelter's which also causes the man not to make enough testosterone. He had to get regular testosterone shots. So I understand a little of what you're facing.  It does get expensive. Back in Maryland, we had medical insurance which did pay for it, but our doctor had to fight with them to get them to pay. I lost my mom and brother last year, so I also understand about going through that kind of loss.  Sending you a comforting hug.

Nikki, I hope things turn out well for you and your boyfriend.  I was reading your post with interest, because my first husband had Klinefelter's which also causes the man not to make enough testosterone. He had to get regular testosterone shots. So I understand a little of what you're facing.  It does get expensive. Back in Maryland, we had medical insurance which did pay for it, but our doctor had to fight with them to get them to pay. I lost my mom and brother last year, so I also understand about going through that kind of loss.  Sending you a comforting hug.

Thanks so much Neophyte! It's always nice to know that there are others out there that can relate to how you feel or what you are going through. Thanks again and also for the encouraging hug

Good to see a fellow NWI Hoosier around! I currently live in Lansing IL but work in Munster IN.

England is pretty amazing I'm sure you'll find everything you need here, this is a community of lovely people