Hey JessF, its September 30th, did you get married on the 29th? Congratulations if you did!
I also had the huge, blow out wedding and divorced a year and half later, you are soooo right, been there, done that and it didn't make a bit of difference towards a good marriage, now that I have found the love of my life, we have decided to elope also, because we really want it to be just about the two of us and our commitment to each other.
And Smashley, I love it, fat and happy, that's how I want to be after I marry my love!