Feel like such an emotional wreck sometimes

I met my boyfriend online just about 2 years ago and we are going to meet in person for the first time in February.Even though we haven't met yet I am deeply in love with him. I've gotten to know him better than I have ever gotten to know anybody else. This is my first ultra long distance relationship. I live on the coast of Oregon and he live on Guernsey, so it's just about 5,000 miles between us.

There are times in which I am so happy I walk around all day with a smile on my face, but there are other times in which the smallest thing will set me off and I'll just start crying because of being so far from him. Liike this morning for instance. He was supposed to call later today but it ends up that he can't so I burst into tears. I'm normally not an overly sensitive person but there are just sometimes that the distance gets to me. I wouldn't trade him for anything but I just get so lonely that it's hard. If I was at a younger stage of my life I don't think I would be able to handle this, but being older and wiser I know that in the end everything is going to turn out okay. I just hate feeling like an emotional wreck sometimes.It's almost like being a teenager, minus the zits. Just needed to vent.

DH and I did 6.5 years long distance, and if you include our online friendship before that, 10.5! I get it. I had the same reactions, and we talked constantly. I tend to be an emotional person anyway, but he is really not, and he often shed tears over the separation... Wish I could say it gets easier! I do hope that you have a wonderful time together in February. The amazing visits make the long distance so worthwhile!

And vent away! So many of us have been through exactly this. It was always so helpful talking to people who understand.

DH and I did 6.5 years long distance, and if you include our online friendship before that, 10.5! I get it. I had the same reactions, and we talked constantly. I tend to be an emotional person anyway, but he is really not, and he often shed tears over the separation... Wish I could say it gets easier! I do hope that you have a wonderful time together in February. The amazing visits make the long distance so worthwhile!

And vent away! So many of us have been through exactly this. It was always so helpful talking to people who understand.

He has more of 'a life' than I do so I do a lot of the waiting around which gets kind of annoying sometimes. He has never had any really major relationships besides me so I think he can be a bit oblivious about things sometimes. For example, he went to a horror film festival the same week I moved to Oregon.During the whole time he was at it he barely contacted me at all.I say what I feel so I told him that it really annoyed me that he left me a horror festival widow while he was gone and he admitted that he goofed up and that he realised that he missed me a lot after he came back. Wanted to hit him over the head with a towel for that!LOL

Call me old fashioned, but I don't understand how you can be in love with someone you've never met. Not knocking it, but I just don't understand it.

How can something be a "major relationship" without physical contact?

Call me old fashioned, but I don't understand how you can be in love with someone you've never met. Not knocking it, but I just don't understand it.

How can something be a "major relationship" without physical contact?

Quite easily. if there is an emotional connection it's going to happen. I"ve known him for over two years now and have opened up to him more than I have to anybody else that's ever been in my life. Sometimes you just meet somebody online and there is an instant connection, even if you haven't met them in person. I'm 40 and have had long term relationships in the past so I know what I am feeling and what I want and don't want. Him and I communicate better with one another than I ever did in the other relationbships I've been in. I know I am not the only person on this forum that this has happened to.

Hey if it works, it works! 

Why haven't you guys met yet over 2 years? I'm trying to imagine a relationship going on that long without ever meeting. I met my fiancé on Facebook last April, and we started chatting and hit it off. I was already going to be in The U.K. for a week at the end of last October and went to visit her first. There was definite chemistry going on, but it wasn't until after spending time together it was official. But that's just us, of course everybody works differently.

It's somewhat interesting how the internet has redefined relationships and concepts like love, I find it quite fascinating because I have seen people become boyfriend/girlfriend & fall in love on facebook with increasing frequency.

Hey if it works, it works! 

Why haven't you guys met yet over 2 years? I'm trying to imagine a relationship going on that long without ever meeting. I met my fiancé on Facebook last April, and we started chatting and hit it off. I was already going to be in The U.K. for a week at the end of last October and went to visit her first. There was definite chemistry going on, but it wasn't until after spending time together it was official. But that's just us, of course everybody works differently.

It's somewhat interesting how the internet has redefined relationships and concepts like love, I find it quite fascinating because I have seen people become boyfriend/girlfriend & fall in love on facebook with increasing frequency.

I was financially unable to do so and I was living with somebody still because I was broke, so I wasn't in the best situation!LOL Would have loved to have met him sooner but sometimes you have to wait and have a bit of patience.;-)

I know the feeling...it's been 171 days since I've seen my fiancé. But the upside is we're getting married a week from Wednesday

I saw your comment about having 100 grand in the bank and didn't understand why you didn't go before. I would have been there a year ago if I could!!!!

Hey if it works, it works! 

Why haven't you guys met yet over 2 years? I'm trying to imagine a relationship going on that long without ever meeting. I met my fiancé on Facebook last April, and we started chatting and hit it off. I was already going to be in The U.K. for a week at the end of last October and went to visit her first. There was definite chemistry going on, but it wasn't until after spending time together it was official. But that's just us, of course everybody works differently.

It's somewhat interesting how the internet has redefined relationships and concepts like love, I find it quite fascinating because I have seen people become boyfriend/girlfriend & fall in love on facebook with increasing frequency.

I met my husband online and we fell for each other before we met in person, we saw each other 3 times in person and got married on the 4th visit! Sometimes when you know, you know.  We've been married now for 3.5 years and I wouldn't change a thing about our crazy whirlwind romance. Meeting online is really great because since you can't do... other stuff... you spend a LOT of time talking and getting to know each other first, which is great because you know that it's their personality you really love more than anything else.  And when you are talking on webcam, it's especially great because you can see expressions and body language, etc. But yeah, it is different for everyone. Most people thought we were nuts at the time, but of course, it all worked out, so they don't think that anymore. 

I met my husband online and we fell for each other before we met in person, we saw each other 3 times in person and got married on the 4th visit! Sometimes when you know, you know.  We've been married now for 3.5 years and I wouldn't change a thing about our crazy whirlwind romance. Meeting online is really great because since you can't do... other stuff... you spend a LOT of time talking and getting to know each other first, which is great because you know that it's their personality you really love more than anything else.  And when you are talking on webcam, it's especially great because you can see expressions and body language, etc. But yeah, it is different for everyone. Most people thought we were nuts at the time, but of course, it all worked out, so they don't think that anymore. 

I'm a very cerebral type person so the whole getting to know him before I meet him thing really works for me. I've always been more into what is in their head, compared to what they look like.Don't get me wrong, he's really cute, but if he wasn't really intelligent and funny then it wouldn't work for me.

Me and my husband emailed and skype messaged for about 7 months before we even 'saw' each other (I didn't get a webcam for a while..). We spoke on the phone a handful of times and I was SO nervous when I set up the webcam and we first got to 'see' each other. At that time we weren't 'head over heals' although I just 'knew' he was the chap for me... It was about a year of emailing and chatting at a distance before we met in person and when we did it felt just right 

Anyway, LDRs can be tough at times but they are worth it if it means you can eventually be with the one you love!

Take care Oregongirl 

Me and my husband emailed and skype messaged for about 7 months before we even 'saw' each other (I didn't get a webcam for a while..). We spoke on the phone a handful of times and I was SO nervous when I set up the webcam and we first got to 'see' each other. At that time we weren't 'head over heals' although I just 'knew' he was the chap for me... It was about a year of emailing and chatting at a distance before we met in person and when we did it felt just right 

Anyway, LDRs can be tough at times but they are worth it if it means you can eventually be with the one you love!

Take care Oregongirl 

Thanks!:-) Him and I mostly use Twitter and we talk on the phone 2 times a week. He really needs a new laptop so we haven't gotten around to Skype yet.LOL Yeah, sometimes you just 'know' and there really isn't any single way to explain it more than that.;-)

I feel for you, it's very frustrating indeed. I always had a weird feeling towards meeting people over the internet, but that's exactly what happened with my wife. We were both members of an old Irish myspace group, and got pretty close on there, and MSN messenger. All of the regulars felt kind of close. I had a pre-planned holiday to Ireland booked, so members from the group from elsewhere in the UK&the Republic decided to have a big group meet where my now wife lived in Belfast. Stuff actually came up hindering the others, so I was the only one that was able to turn up. Needless to say we spent a whole week together, and things I kind of thought about her before(and can now say knew) were further cemented.

When I came back we only had mostly MSN, texts, and the odd phone call to communicate for 6 months until she went to the States to marry me.(When you know, you KNOW) It was frustrating because we both worked long hours, and factor in the time difference, means you're going to go many sleepless nights. It was harder after getting married. I felt so sorry for her going back to the UK without me just after being married until I could get a visa. We did it again for another 4 months before I was finally able to come back here. Tensions mounted at times, and it gets hard. Especially because I knew I was leaving the country, so I wanted to spend time with a few close friends&family before I left as well. Things like that are problematic, as there were times she'd be out with friends as well during the only time we had at the weekend to talk. You both need to understand, give, and take.

Well we just celebrated our 4 year Wedding Anniversary the 1st of November. If it's meant to be, it will. 

We met online 5 years before we ever met in person, we were just friends until we met in person though.  We married a year later and have been married a year now, we've spent less than a year physically together but it feels like we've known each other forever!