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New School-Painful Adjustments
« on: April 19, 2012, 09:32:17 AM »
Well, today is Sami's third day at high school. Her step-dad and I knew it would be hard...but its horrible. Every day its tears and its breaking my heart. She is NEVER like this. I know its going to get better with time, but right now she is stressing and its making me stress even more. She normally makes friends so easily but this time around she doesn't even seem to want to. 
Anyone with any suggestions??
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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #1 on: April 19, 2012, 12:34:55 PM »
Give it time... it's only day 3!  :)


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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #2 on: April 19, 2012, 01:40:37 PM »
I know...its just hard to see my 13 year old reduced to tears every day  :\\\'(
09/08/2011-Glyn leaves for UK
01/30/2012-Biometrics for UK spousal & dependent visas sent out w/ application same day
02/03/2012-Email from UK Consul General application needs further processing will receive decision within 10 working days.
02/09/2012-Request for more payslips and custody papers for daughter.
02/22/2012-Submit the requested documents with prayers.
02/24/2012-UK settlement visas issued :)
03/12/2012-Arrive in MAN UK :)


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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #3 on: April 19, 2012, 02:01:01 PM »
As I recall, ages 13-14 were the worst for me in school and it seems to be the age during which most girls have a hard time, so I would imagine being that age and moving to a new country/school will be upsetting. Give her some time and be supportive.



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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #4 on: April 19, 2012, 08:46:42 PM »
Well, she came home in a bit of a better frame of mind than I thought she would. AND...it was the first night without tears so far. Only thing she really complained about is the REALLY grouchy maths teacher that we already knew was grouchy. She's ancient and our 40+ year old friends know her well  ::)  I guess there's always one teacher that sticks out in your mind as the horrible one...and I think Sami just met her! LOL...well, tomorrow is Friday...the end of a VERY long week. Hopefully, next week is a bit better.
09/08/2011-Glyn leaves for UK
01/30/2012-Biometrics for UK spousal & dependent visas sent out w/ application same day
02/03/2012-Email from UK Consul General application needs further processing will receive decision within 10 working days.
02/09/2012-Request for more payslips and custody papers for daughter.
02/22/2012-Submit the requested documents with prayers.
02/24/2012-UK settlement visas issued :)
03/12/2012-Arrive in MAN UK :)


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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #5 on: April 20, 2012, 10:18:14 AM »
Glad things seem a little better!

I'd give her the space and availability to talk with her. Also could you make sure that there are things outside of school she can look forward to? What about helping Sami identify some interests, so she can choose local out of school activities that are fun and she enjoys?
 
Also some suggestions here:
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/england/education_e/education_school_education_ew/problems_at_school.htm

Hugs also help and hugs to you as well. ((Hugs))


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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #6 on: May 02, 2012, 08:47:02 AM »
That's such a difficult age for any girl, let alone one who is in an entirely new environment. It'll definitely take some time.

I hope things are getting better for her.  :)


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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #7 on: May 02, 2012, 12:41:28 PM »
Thanks! She's in the middle of her third week and doing far better. She's made friends and is even attending a sleep over birthday party next weekend. That first week was sooo hard for her.
09/08/2011-Glyn leaves for UK
01/30/2012-Biometrics for UK spousal & dependent visas sent out w/ application same day
02/03/2012-Email from UK Consul General application needs further processing will receive decision within 10 working days.
02/09/2012-Request for more payslips and custody papers for daughter.
02/22/2012-Submit the requested documents with prayers.
02/24/2012-UK settlement visas issued :)
03/12/2012-Arrive in MAN UK :)


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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #8 on: May 03, 2012, 12:05:28 AM »
Hooray! That's good news. I'm glad things are looking up for her.  :)


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Re: New School-Painful Adjustments
« Reply #9 on: May 30, 2012, 05:54:21 PM »
Hiya Kbeech, I am so glad to hear that your daughter is adjusting well to her new life there!  I will be moving to East Anglia in January of next year with my daughter who will be 12 by that time and I am concerned about how well she will adjust.  Although we have spent a lot of time over there, I am very aware that actually living and going to school there will be an entirely different thing.  Would you mind if I messaged you with questions or for advice?  This forum is a wonderful resource and I am so glad that I have found it.


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