Happpy, but SO STRESSED!

I knew this was going to be hard....not on me but my family. It was the last time, and this time around isn't any better. My mom, and my dad to some extent, are making me feel so bad. I know its upsetting to them as I have been here with them for the last 6 months, and they've gotten used to me being here. Dad is pretty much disabled so mom takes care of everything in the house and I've been here helping so I think she's going to be really lonely.They don't get out much so they don't have a lot of friends. I'm also leaving behind my 18 year old son...but he's honestly going to be fine. He starts college in the Fall and has his own life going on. I'll miss him, and he'll miss me, but he's been living with his dad for years now. I have a younger brother and he's married and has kids and only lives about 15 minutes from mom and dad...but he doesn't spend much time with our parents as his wife and my parents don't get along. The only time they call...is if they need something like a babysitter or money. BUT, they are close by if needed for emergencies.
I feel selfish wanting to live my own life...like I'm abandoning my parents. 
I know its probably normal to feel this way....just needed to get it off my chest.

I'll feel better once my daughter and I are on the plane....and on our way to Glyn.

Your feelings are normal but the best you can really do right now is spend time with your parents while you're still there. You're an adult with your own family. I'm sure while they are sad that you're leaving, they'd rather you go live your life with the person you love and your child rather than stay and keep them company. At least your parents do have each other and like you said are sorted out in case of emergencies. I know it's hard feeling this way (I've been there and have been guilted by my family too) but try to not feel guilty and just think about how exciting it will be to be with your partner again

I think this is normal. I had similar feelings myself. My mom was understandably very upset the night before I left and the day of my departure and of course it made me feel guilty, but I wouldn't be too hard on yourself. You are an adult and you need to live your own life. Just like you said. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. I think that because you're feeling guilty it shows you are not a selfish person and you are clearly concerned about the well being of others.

I agree.  I dealt with those feelings just moving cross country, so I can't imagine what I'll deal with moving to another country.  I already heard that my mom commented to a friend of mine that if we move, she feels like she'll never see her grandkids (we don't have any yet and aren't even pregnant yet, but that's her feeling), but with all the technology out there, it's not going to stop me from living my life with my husband.  Just remind your parents how much smaller the world really is nowadays.  It'll be hard no matter what, but once you complete the move, time will make it easier.  Just spend time with them now and I agree with PlainPearl...because of how you're feeling it shows what an unselfish person you are and how they are feeling about your leaving shows how much they really love you and enjoy having you around, but at the end of the day, you have your own life to live with the person you chose to spend it with.  Good luck with it all!   

I can relate. While my mom lives 3 hours away and I see her 3-4 times a year, you'd think I was moving to the moon. If the DH gets his act together and gets me the documents I need so I can get the visa taken care of, I plan on spending a couple of weeks in July with my mom before the move. I have a really hard time with her being clingy in the best of times, so this will be a huge challenge for me. But I think the reward of doing it will be good as well.

Good luck to you. I can't believe how stressed I feel right now. Ugh!

i know the feeling, im getting that all around myself and i havent even gotton my visa yet. my mom has already started saying she'll miss me and cries from time to time  while i'll be looking forward to my new life with Denise, i wont be looking forward(although kinda will for the reason i said above) to the day where i finally do move and leave my old life behind

Caitlin: I'm with ya. I was all set to submit my visa application at the end of the week, however, DH was able to chat with a woman who used to work for the UKBA (his company is bringing someone from the US to the UK on a work visa) and she stressed the importance of a few documents we don't have and the need for savings. Either here in the US or there in the UK. So now we are busy moving money out of his paypal account to his savings to bolster that and me moving some money my mom was holding for me into my accounts to bolster our savings. So that gets us to the end of the month for statements plus statement requests to show the balances. So that puts us off for yet another week. Ugh!